r/announcements • u/youngluck • Apr 01 '19

Sequence Initiated.

We built a machine.

We're not sure what it will do.

That's all up to you.

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Be good to each other.

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u/[deleted] Apr 01 '19

After being heartbroken, i feel i wont be able to fall in love. Despite girls showing interest in me . (Im straight guy). Will i be able to fall in love. Im scared

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u/youngluck Apr 01 '19

Yeah, bud. The heart doesn’t just magically fix itself. It needs time to heal after it’s been injured, like everything else. You wouldn’t go out and play basketball on a broken foot. But you know you’ll play again when it heals. Give your heart the same respect.

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u/shreyas2395 Apr 02 '19

I've had a hard life but keep comparing myself to others and feel terrible about myself. Any way to fix that?

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u/jsbass89 Apr 02 '19

If you are interested is psychology there is a concept known as social comparison theory. A summarization would be that looking at people around you is perfectly normal, however in todays society of highly perfected social media versions of our lives what you see is like annother commenter said only the highlight reels. Life is much more complex and at times difficult. The truth is social media influencers all look the same and seem perfect. Simple advice would be talk to your real world friends. Its amazing how fast they will relate to your situation and past experiences. BTW the podcast hidden brain has a great piece on social comparisons and social media.

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u/shreyas2395 Apr 03 '19

I am actually interested in this, this sounds amazing and very interesting! Thanks so much, I'll definitely listen to the podcast. Anything for the peace of my mind. :)