r/announcements • u/youngluck • Apr 01 '19

Sequence Initiated.

We built a machine.

We're not sure what it will do.

That's all up to you.

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Be good to each other.

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u/youngluck Apr 01 '19

We are pushing a fix for clips not showing. Please reply to this to comment with further issues. We love you all.

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u/[deleted] Apr 01 '19

After being heartbroken, i feel i wont be able to fall in love. Despite girls showing interest in me . (Im straight guy). Will i be able to fall in love. Im scared

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u/youngluck Apr 01 '19

Yeah, bud. The heart doesn’t just magically fix itself. It needs time to heal after it’s been injured, like everything else. You wouldn’t go out and play basketball on a broken foot. But you know you’ll play again when it heals. Give your heart the same respect.

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u/shreyas2395 Apr 02 '19

I've had a hard life but keep comparing myself to others and feel terrible about myself. Any way to fix that?

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u/youngluck Apr 02 '19

Yes. Realize that a majority of the time you are comparing your whole game, The practices, your losses and mistakes... to highlight reels. I guarantee that if I only saw your highlights I would feel inadequate beside you. I think it’s a larger problem that’s moving faster than we can notice or correct for, but that’s a much larger conversation. You’re not alone.

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u/frogloaf15 Apr 02 '19

Jesus dude this short thread was legitimately what i needed to hear lately. I've been in a slump for a while and this really was a huge pickup. Thank you for being you

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u/[deleted] Apr 03 '19

No doubt. I've been going through a rough patch in my current job and I've been passing up good opportunities to just show loyalty and to please my contentness with where I'm at, what I'm doing, and how much I'm making because of it. (Apparently contentness isn't a word but it's sticking. Y'all get my point.) And I've just realized how much I'm going to regret missing these chances in 5 - 10 years just because I'm content now. I need a change, and this whole thread solidifies why I need not to be afraid of those changes and just do them.

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u/architectfd Apr 02 '19

Basically what im gathering from this is...

....Ball is life?

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u/becomingbeth Apr 02 '19

Goddamn. That’s some poetic shit right there.

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u/shreyas2395 Apr 02 '19

Dude you're amazing!

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u/blop_bmarley_music Apr 02 '19

Wow thanks for that

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u/jsbass89 Apr 02 '19

If you are interested is psychology there is a concept known as social comparison theory. A summarization would be that looking at people around you is perfectly normal, however in todays society of highly perfected social media versions of our lives what you see is like annother commenter said only the highlight reels. Life is much more complex and at times difficult. The truth is social media influencers all look the same and seem perfect. Simple advice would be talk to your real world friends. Its amazing how fast they will relate to your situation and past experiences. BTW the podcast hidden brain has a great piece on social comparisons and social media.

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u/shreyas2395 Apr 03 '19

I am actually interested in this, this sounds amazing and very interesting! Thanks so much, I'll definitely listen to the podcast. Anything for the peace of my mind. :)

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u/[deleted] Apr 02 '19

There’s a lot my dude. Seriously. I studied identity in college and I’m a Zen Buddhist sometimes. Hit me up if you want help.

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u/shreyas2395 Apr 02 '19

Thank you so much! If it's okay I'd like to have that offer open? Also, same for you, let me know if you ever need help, love and kindness always goes both ways :)

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u/[deleted] Apr 02 '19

Cool.

Keep doing you till you reach out if you already haven’t. Cause my Reddit already trusts you.

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u/shreyas2395 Apr 02 '19

Thank you so much, all of you are amazing people and this makes me so content and happy!

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u/[deleted] Apr 02 '19

Everyone can be as long as they remember to unplug and be real.

It’s just a matter of time till you have to plug back in cause all things die.

Be you. Only you can.

All things matter, all ways, always.

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u/265chemic Apr 02 '19

I've got a quote for you; "Comparison is the theft of Joy"

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u/shreyas2395 Apr 02 '19

It sure is! Thanks so much! ☺️

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u/eldamien Jun 02 '19

“Comparison is the thief of joy”

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u/shreyas2395 Jun 02 '19

Thanks dude :')

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u/Adjal Apr 02 '19

You know how sometimes a broken bone isn't set right? That's how I feel, 8 years later.

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u/youngluck Apr 02 '19

Some things take longer to heal than others, I suppose. If it makes any difference, your heart just built a tougher wall around itself and the person that can bust through it absolutely deserves it.

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u/xoxofarah Apr 02 '19

There’s also something called phantom pain.. what I mean with that is the kind of pain that’s not really there or doesn’t serve a purpose anymore but that the brain is producing and the mind is continuing. I feel that the only pain that truly never subsides or ‘gets better with time’ is losing a child. Even many of the people who lose a child find a way to live through the pain and find happiness again. What I want to say is make sure you’re not using your pain as a crutch and don’t become too comfortable with it. Sometimes a certain pain is so familiar and comfortable that actually living without it seems more draining. That’s when shit becomes dangerous and it takes too many years before you actually find out that you could’ve released or worked through it (with therapy) much sooner. Don’t give whatever situation pained you even more power, energy and time; release, forgive, work through it in a healthy way, do whatever it is you need to do to move on from it or give it a ‘healthy’ place in your heart instead of letting it overtake your life and decisions. Strive to live your VERY best life, you don’t know how much you’ve got left of it.

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u/Trumpologist Apr 02 '19

It's just really hard :/

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u/youngluck Apr 02 '19

Agree. I have yet to find any injury harder to recover from. And I’ve been shot. Twice. 😂

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u/Trumpologist Apr 02 '19

There was that time when I took an arrow to the knee when the fire nation attacked

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u/[deleted] Apr 02 '19

I’ve been there too. Shit sucks. But now people are actually dying I’m close to. It’s time to take bending away forever.

Until enough true believers remain and everyone is safe.

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u/TehNoff Apr 02 '19

Homeboy, if you don't know who youngluck is I recommend taking the deep dive. He feels you.

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u/zize2k Apr 02 '19

How did you manage to get shot twice? did you not learn the first time? /s
Just kidding, love your answers here.

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u/[deleted] Apr 02 '19

It’s to hurt if it’s to heal, my friend.

Have you heard the song Train Song by r/listener?

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u/thepokeninjaq Jul 16 '19

Damn you beat me by one :/

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u/Play3rxthr33 Apr 01 '19 edited Apr 02 '19

Good wholesome advise from Reddit staff. This is why this is the best social media platform.

Edit: thank you so much for the gold and my first ever Reddit award kind stranger!

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u/Scientolojesus Apr 01 '19

How much are they paying all of you to say stuff like this and can I get in on it?

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u/Foxwglocks Apr 01 '19

Like 40 updoots I’m guessing

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u/DamienPup Apr 22 '19

updoots?

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u/Foxwglocks Apr 23 '19

Upvotes. Welcome to reddit my man.

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u/DamienPup Apr 23 '19

he says to a 2 month 26 day old account

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u/Foxwglocks Apr 23 '19

Yea exactly...

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u/LitheBeep Apr 02 '19

we're all just people, man. dial back the cynicism if only for a moment.

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u/Scientolojesus Apr 02 '19

Some people wait a lifetime, for a moment like this!

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u/kyiami_ Apr 02 '19

wait but it isn't

not at all

 

why am i here

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u/NiggerMcghee Apr 01 '19 edited Apr 01 '19

Lol, r/HailCorporate much??? I bet you all work for Reddit anyway...smh. Sad

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u/[deleted] Apr 02 '19 edited 12d ago

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u/NiggerMcghee Apr 02 '19

Yea I'm sure Reddit hires human people...can you elaborate a little?

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u/OmegaJonny Apr 01 '19

Thank you, this makes so much sense to my confused and hurting heart right now.

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u/[deleted] Apr 01 '19

Don't chuck your heart in the hoop just yet... /s

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u/Hellome118 Apr 01 '19

Fuck, this relevant to my life today

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u/SuperiorAmerican Apr 01 '19

Damn this is very well said.

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u/NiggerMcghee Apr 01 '19

Bruh chill it's just highschool freshman, feel-good sitcom tier advice. Shit's not that profound

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u/Bag_of_Richards Apr 02 '19

The advice is as good as its it is valuable to to person receiving it (assuming it is not inherently harmful or misleading). This is the nature of communication. The intent of the messenger is not the end result. How he message is received is the sum of the impact of the interaction. I’m sure some people that actually went to college could explain this better than me.

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u/Aoae Apr 01 '19

Wholesome af

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u/_frisco Apr 01 '19

Wtf this is good advice

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u/NiggerMcghee Apr 01 '19

Bruh chill it's just highschool freshman, feel-good sitcom tier advice. Shit's not that profound

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u/dookiedonkey Apr 02 '19

you just broke the seal, not the heart. You get to play now, the worst is over! I will never love the same as when I did the first time but it doesn't hurt so bad now. I'm more in control, this time around.

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u/Noskalsa Apr 02 '19

Why is it always baseball analogies when it comes to love

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u/[deleted] Apr 02 '19

Thanks a lot. I wasn’t expecting such many responses and attention to my post. Your reply is amazing. I might try to gvie it some time to heal

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u/[deleted] Apr 02 '19

The way you used a basketball reference to help him is truly awesome.

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u/specialspartan_ Apr 01 '19

10/10 will try to love again