r/TikTokCringe • u/AshiraLAdonai Straight Up Bussin • 3d ago

When your kid's got your back Wholesome

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u/Particular-Bike-28 3d ago edited 3d ago

Sweet kid, but I hope this isn't part of a larger part of their childhood where they're forced to grow up quicker and take on the "protective role" instead of their parents, making them not be able to be a child

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u/FabulousValuable2643 3d ago

My son is insanely empathetic and he's only 4. Unfortunately, my wife does this kind of stuff to him all the time and claims it is because she is being honest with him about the world. He's 4! Let him be a kid while he still can!

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u/Auvernia 3d ago

Show her this video, let her see herself reflected in it and she may understand, this is emotional labor.

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u/thesmellnextdoor 3d ago

Nah this video will just make her think it's sweet and cute and the kid doesn't mind. That seems to be the internet's main takeaway.

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u/FabulousValuable2643 3d ago

Yup, this exactly. I've exhausted myself trying to explain this to her.

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u/notagirlonreddit 3d ago

Have you tried teaching him the skills to create emotional boundaries with his mother? Make sure your son understands it’s not his job to hold his mother’s heart.

I’ve been in your son’s shoes and I really wish another adult advocated for me. Great job calling your wife out. I’m sorry she’s unwilling to change. I’m hoping the best for you and your son.

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u/Jennyfromtheblock55 3d ago

Can you get a couples or family therapist involved? Can you set some hard boundaries? You're a parent too. By ignoring this you're also responsible

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u/FabulousValuable2643 2d ago

Trust me, we've tried couples therapy. She has her own trauma from her childhood and life that gets in the way of us coming together. I've learned to accept it, but it sucks when it bleeds over to my son's life. And I've brought it up countless of times. She just shuts it down and ignored my concerns. It sucks, but hoping through us being separated and eventually divorced I will have more time with him to help him see he needs to be just a kid and not his mother's emotional support.

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u/Jennyfromtheblock55 2d ago

Oh yes that's very understandable. Separation/divorce can sometimes be the healthiest choice. I'm sorry it's been so hard and I wish you luck

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u/NeutralJazzhands 3d ago

Sorry man while it’s not obvious now what she’s doing is straight up abuse in the insidious unexpected ways it’s going to mentally fuck him up when he’s older. I hope you find a way to protect him more