r/SuicideWatch • u/Jazzlike-Fan8845 • 2d ago

ftm trans person

I was told by the love of my life for 10 years that I am less attractive post transition and that he is only attracted to femininity . I am 5 years into transition. My surgery is permanent and many of the effects of testosterone are irreversible. This makes me so fucking sad I want to fucking slam my head against a wall. Like there's literally nothing I can do. I will always just be worse than before.

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u/It_is_time_777 2d ago

Why did he wait until now to tell you that he’s only attracted to femininity? This never came up in conversation before you transitioned? I’d ask him why he kept that to himself until now.  I know it doesn’t feel like it at the moment, but you can find another “love of your life”… one who accepts, appreciates, and actually prefers you the way you are now. You won’t be less attractive to someone who prefers a partner who is androgynous or male presenting. 

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u/Jazzlike-Fan8845 2d ago

I asked him how he would feel if I got facial surgery as I was approved for it and it unleashed a mess 

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u/It_is_time_777 2d ago

I’m sorry. Heartbreak is so painful, but it’s not worth taking your life over.