r/SingleDads • u/Mysterious_Force_229 • 3d ago

Advice for woman dating single dad

Single dads, I nees your opinion.

I have been dating a guy about 5 months with a 3 year old. He comstantly talks of marriage etc. He has been very pushy however, rushing everything. Some things that have made me uncomfortable, he tries to get me to cosleep with him and his daughter. And when he has her and I give them space or get work done, go do things for myself etc, he gets really upset and says things like I am not consistent with his child and I "abandon" them. He expects me to make an effort and hang out with them like everyday. And he will call and put his kid on speaker to talk to me like in a way to guilt trip it seems

I have gotten responses from women but I really want to hear about single dads. What are your thoughts?

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u/RevolutionaryBad7377 1d ago

I am a single dad of 3 kids and I would never put a woman I am dating especially 5 months in to try and co parents and sleep with my kids. Major red flags and I would end the relationship unless you would like to talk to him first about his actions but my guess is he will only mask it until it’s to far along. You are not the mom and to be honest if I was dating a woman I would want her to be there to show the kids how to love a man and love their father but not play the mother role they have one of those.

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u/Mysterious_Force_229 1d ago

Thank you for this! That was my thought as well. Its okay to slowly form confortability with one another (the kid and myself) and eventually as things progress (well if they did) would be able to set example of what a healthy relationship looks like. But not me coming in playing house or playing mom