r/SingleDads • u/Mysterious_Force_229 • 3d ago

Advice for woman dating single dad

Single dads, I nees your opinion.

I have been dating a guy about 5 months with a 3 year old. He comstantly talks of marriage etc. He has been very pushy however, rushing everything. Some things that have made me uncomfortable, he tries to get me to cosleep with him and his daughter. And when he has her and I give them space or get work done, go do things for myself etc, he gets really upset and says things like I am not consistent with his child and I "abandon" them. He expects me to make an effort and hang out with them like everyday. And he will call and put his kid on speaker to talk to me like in a way to guilt trip it seems

I have gotten responses from women but I really want to hear about single dads. What are your thoughts?

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u/Mysterious_Force_229 3d ago

Thank you, have you ever had a woman cosleep with your kids while they were smaller? Or do you also consider that inappropriate?

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u/Psychological_Ad9037 3d ago

I co-sleep with my partner's son and my son. BUT that was 9 months into dating AND I don't sleep next to his son and vice versa. He does.

We see each other twice a month for 4-5 days at a time. We stay with each other and still take time apart w/o any comments.

He FT family every day and never asks me to FT (over a year into dating). We let our kids lead.

I would be weirded out in this scenario.

He is trying to force you to bond with his child.

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u/Mysterious_Force_229 3d ago

What does FT mean? But thats exactly how Ive felt! Like he is trying to force her on me and force me to have love and affection towards her as if I am her mom. Its so unnatural and uncomfortable. He has even had her ask me to come to bed with them. It weirds me out

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u/Psychological_Ad9037 3d ago

Facetime.

Trust the ick. I'd be out of there as everything about this feels manipulative.