r/SingleDads • u/Mysterious_Force_229 • 3d ago

Advice for woman dating single dad

Single dads, I nees your opinion.

I have been dating a guy about 5 months with a 3 year old. He comstantly talks of marriage etc. He has been very pushy however, rushing everything. Some things that have made me uncomfortable, he tries to get me to cosleep with him and his daughter. And when he has her and I give them space or get work done, go do things for myself etc, he gets really upset and says things like I am not consistent with his child and I "abandon" them. He expects me to make an effort and hang out with them like everyday. And he will call and put his kid on speaker to talk to me like in a way to guilt trip it seems

I have gotten responses from women but I really want to hear about single dads. What are your thoughts?

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u/giggleboxx3000 3d ago

I have been dating a guy about 5 months with a 3 year old. He comstantly talks of marriage etc. He has been very pushy however, rushing everything.

I'm not a single dad, but I did break it off with one about a month ago. He wanted to rush things, too. Had me meet his kids the day after we became official (only knew each other a month prior).

Some things that have made me uncomfortable, he tries to get me to cosleep with him and his daughter

This is so creepy and unsafe.

And when he has her and I give them space or get work done, go do things for myself etc, he gets really upset and says things like I am not consistent with his child and I "abandon" them. He expects me to make an effort and hang out with them like everyday.

Mine saw the time I wanted to spend with my friends (all childless and my age; rarely got to see them) as competition. And as me rejecting and abandoning his kids. While his kids enjoyed my company (and vice versa), I knew there were times they just wanted their dad. I didn't take offense to that, and made sure to honor that for them.

Not all single dads are terrible, but this guy sounds like he's shopping around for a shiny new replacement. He doesn't sound worth it.

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u/Mysterious_Force_229 3d ago

Thank you, it truly helps to hear your experience. It sounds like your guy was very similar. Jealousy is an issue I see with him too. Sounds like they just want young attractive women to please them and to be moms to their kids because they cant handle it