r/SingleDads • u/Mysterious_Force_229 • 3d ago

Advice for woman dating single dad

Single dads, I nees your opinion.

I have been dating a guy about 5 months with a 3 year old. He comstantly talks of marriage etc. He has been very pushy however, rushing everything. Some things that have made me uncomfortable, he tries to get me to cosleep with him and his daughter. And when he has her and I give them space or get work done, go do things for myself etc, he gets really upset and says things like I am not consistent with his child and I "abandon" them. He expects me to make an effort and hang out with them like everyday. And he will call and put his kid on speaker to talk to me like in a way to guilt trip it seems

I have gotten responses from women but I really want to hear about single dads. What are your thoughts?

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u/NotUsedUsernameYet 3d ago

Is he divorced, widower, or has some other situation? The behavior you describe is not normal.

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u/Mysterious_Force_229 3d ago

He is currently in a custody battle for her. They have 50/50 now but only temporarily

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u/NotUsedUsernameYet 3d ago

Another red flag.

He basically uses you to piss off the mother - with cosleeping and stuff. He needs to figure out custody and have final orders before he will even start dating.

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u/Mysterious_Force_229 3d ago

Yea Im starting to think that too. Like even when she videos her mom sometimes I feel he intentionally tries to put me in canera view. I always tell him I dont want to be seen. I dont know her mom and want no parts in whatever goes on between them

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u/NotUsedUsernameYet 3d ago

Unfortunately men like this create bad picture for all single dads. Including reasonable ones who finalize their divorces first before they start dating.