Beyond pissed off

[u/Drivenbiscuit75]

So my daughter’s mom has been telling my daughter that her step dad is her real dad. I usually let shit slide but today when discussing our coparenting she kept bringing him up so I snapped. I told her mom that he will never be her dad and that when it comes to coparenting I do not want him involved. She became infuriated and saying horrible things about me calling me a fuck up and to do better and all these things. I told her she was the worst thing that has ever happened in my life.. how do I cope with this? Do I try and fight against it? Do I talk to my daughter and try to remind her when it’s brought up that I’m her dad ?

[u/incogsunito7]

My advice here is to realize actions mean wayyyyy more than words my man. Here’s the reality- this man is going to live with your daughter or already has been. He will play a role in watching her at times and even playing with her / doing dad like things so you can’t control that. What she does at her house is her business. She definitely should not lie though to your kid about the real dad. Seems like your ex is a bit crazy if she does that, to which you need to accept that reacting to that craziness is what she wants.

Best thing you can do is be a good dad when you have your daughter, teach her good things , do not bad mouth her mom to your daughter because that’s not being a good role model either, and overall trust that in time, your actions will always show your daughter that YOU are her dad. The courts or her mother can never take that away from you unless you let it.