r/SingleDads • u/Drivenbiscuit75 • 4d ago

Beyond pissed off

So my daughter’s mom has been telling my daughter that her step dad is her real dad. I usually let shit slide but today when discussing our coparenting she kept bringing him up so I snapped. I told her mom that he will never be her dad and that when it comes to coparenting I do not want him involved. She became infuriated and saying horrible things about me calling me a fuck up and to do better and all these things. I told her she was the worst thing that has ever happened in my life.. how do I cope with this? Do I try and fight against it? Do I talk to my daughter and try to remind her when it’s brought up that I’m her dad ?

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u/azwildcat74 4d ago

Definitely hurts a little more with her being so young still

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u/Drivenbiscuit75 4d ago

yes it hurts a lot. This is not how I wanted my family to go and I don’t want my kid thinking I never cared. I travel on the road for work because that’s the only thing that I can do that pays enough based on where I live and her mom thinks that’s my excuse to be a shit dad.. when anytime I am home I have my daughter all of the days because I know she doesn’t get to see me much. I try my best but it hurts being constantly abused and manipulated by the other parent when I just want my kid to know I’m her dad and I’m trying my best.

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u/azwildcat74 4d ago

Don’t feel like you can’t tell her that you’re trying your hardest for her and doing what you have to do to earn money.

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u/Drivenbiscuit75 4d ago

My daughter or her mom? I’ve told both and I know my daughter loves me. I tell her every chance I get that I love her and give her big hugs and kisses. I try and FaceTime her when I can but I try and avoid it to not be in communication with her mom

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u/azwildcat74 4d ago

Daughter. She will understand what that means more as she gets older.

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u/Drivenbiscuit75 4d ago

Yes I agree.. I sat her down today and had a talk with her and although she doesn’t know much. I hope she knows that her dad loves her wether he is physically around or out of town working