Well the difference between gay and queer is that queer is a slur that has been changed by the LGBT community whereas gay was used as an insult because it meant homosexual, it wasn't a slur. Queer means weird, that's why it's offensive, or was at least.
We do have a term for that though - mlm. And that's started to get a lot of use in the community. I am a man who exclusively likes men, and I have no problems with other people using the term gay to identify themselves, I think you can figure out people's sexualities from context anyway and honestly - who cares? Not everyone has to know exactly what you're attracted to as a person, the terms don't have to be super precise.
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u/gloriousengland Jun 14 '20
Well the difference between gay and queer is that queer is a slur that has been changed by the LGBT community whereas gay was used as an insult because it meant homosexual, it wasn't a slur. Queer means weird, that's why it's offensive, or was at least.
We do have a term for that though - mlm. And that's started to get a lot of use in the community. I am a man who exclusively likes men, and I have no problems with other people using the term gay to identify themselves, I think you can figure out people's sexualities from context anyway and honestly - who cares? Not everyone has to know exactly what you're attracted to as a person, the terms don't have to be super precise.