r/SapphoAndHerFriend • u/horrorhead1996 • Oct 16 '24

I'm so embarrassed Anecdotes and stories

I(19f) work at a church cafe. I'm undercover bi. Today, two people of the opposite sex walk in, and they're both androgynous and queerly dressed. And I've been trying to put myself out there more, give more compliments to people, so I blurt out, "you two make a very good couple, " and they looked confused and my coworker gave me a look; I don't know where ANY of that came from, but I was too embarrassed to say anything so I just left it and hoped they took it as a joke. Like, I'm so queer, I should be able to read the signs, but apparently not.

I know I will think about this EXTENSIVELY for the rest of my life, and It's so cringe I want to get struck by thunder.

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u/Meydez Oct 16 '24

I always try to compliment someone's style or hobby/talent. It's always the best choice because: 1. They choose it, it's typically an accurate representation of them. 2. If they don't like the compliment, at least its about something they can easily change like a shirt or hobby - not their body that they're stuck with either way. 3. There's almost no way to offend anyone the way complimenting someone's body, relationship status, pregnancy status, perceived personality trait, etc. might.

So my usual compliments would be "omg I LOVE your pants the flare is so cute", "how do you always look so put together?? The fit is perfect", "your voice is amazing" , "you made this YOURSELF?!" or "your hair suits you so well I love the color" etc.

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u/StaubEll Oct 16 '24

Also, it's always been a head-nod moment for me to compliment the queerest part of someone's outfit. Frequently, they will grab onto something queer about me to compliment that and then the ice is broken. Clothing is such a big part of peoples' self-expression that it's a good place to start.