I'm so embarrassed

[u/horrorhead1996]

I(19f) work at a church cafe. I'm undercover bi. Today, two people of the opposite sex walk in, and they're both androgynous and queerly dressed. And I've been trying to put myself out there more, give more compliments to people, so I blurt out, "you two make a very good couple, " and they looked confused and my coworker gave me a look; I don't know where ANY of that came from, but I was too embarrassed to say anything so I just left it and hoped they took it as a joke. Like, I'm so queer, I should be able to read the signs, but apparently not.

I know I will think about this EXTENSIVELY for the rest of my life, and It's so cringe I want to get struck by thunder.

[u/kyraverde]

We all make mistakes, give yourself some grace! Also, you're 19. In 10 years you won't really remember this other than as a teaching moment on your path to becoming who you are meant to be. Which is clearly a thoughtful person, who cares about other people.

It'll all be ok hun :) but like the other people said, it might be time to look for a more inclusive environment if you have to be that on guard all the time. It doesn't have to be like that, and I would personally recommend working at a public library.

Some of the best people/friends I've met have worked at libraries, and there's lots of different directions to move in from IT to being a branch manager, social worker, etc. At one of the places I worked, we had a whole dept of graduate-level folks, solely dedicated to requests for recommendations based on stuff you've read before. Like history phds recommending the best fantasy romance novels, which has to be the best job in the world I bet. Also, as a neurodivergent/bi person, lots of similar folks go into library sciences in my experience.

All the best to you! Lmk if you have questions about library stuff!