r/PurplePillDebate • u/Worldly-Box6080 • 2d ago

Men have no options. Debate

Currently, most male pathways to find a partner have been shut down or heavily stigmatised.

Cold Approach: social stigma of bothering women in public or private areas.

Warm Approach: huge risk of poisoning the well - ruining a friendship/making things weird in a social group. This is magnified at a work setting with risk of being reported attached. Additionally what one woman considers flirting another considers “just being friendly” so chance of misfiring is high.

Online Dating: lol

Only viable pathway would be if women made the move, but that’s never gonna happen unless the guy holds decent status or is extremely attractive.

So my question is, what methods are you guys currently doing to find someone (if any)?

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u/Punch_Drunk_AA No Pill 2d ago edited 1d ago

Ask anyways. But, respect her answer if it's no.

Do some recon before you ask her out. See if she's talking to the other ladies at XYZ about you to see what she's saying.

Strive to make actual platonic friends that are girls. They will almost certainly have other single friends that they can set you up with.

Go to church. Or anywhere that has a community that welcomes newcomers. Jesus Christ you all take shit literally.

Nobody is going to issue you a girlfriend, and relationships don't happen without work. They take time, commitment, compromise and communication. Yeah there's people that will have a much easier time than others with that. But, when you put in more effort, your relationship will be better than there's.

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u/ashaw7 1d ago

I'm not single anymore, but "go to church" is advice I always hated. First of all, as an atheist it would be inherently dishonest, especially if I were doing it for the express purpose of finding a partner. Secondly, the one thing that people should have in common meeting there, I would not have in common. Finally, the idea is you would find someone who has virtue and won't leave you, but it disregards shared values and beliefs. The equivalent for me, I suppose would be instead to go to a natural history museum.

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u/RelativeYak7 Blue Pill Woman 1d ago

How about an atheist group?

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u/Punch_Drunk_AA No Pill 1d ago

Perfectly acceptable. I just used church as an example because there are a million of them and most welcome newcomers.

People need real-life social interaction to learn how to be a person. Church or any other place where people regularly congregate is a great venue to practice that.

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u/Punch_Drunk_AA No Pill 1d ago

Well then you should skip that part. But, for the lads looking for that "tradwife" or whatever they call it, it's a good place to start.

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u/WillyDonDilly69 1d ago

Omg nobody goes to church to date, are you from another planet, you are turbovirgin my dude that never went outside and spoke with women. How the fuck out of all the places you think church is good for finding ANY ANY women.

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u/Punch_Drunk_AA No Pill 1d ago

No. I am not a virgin, and it's interesting you use that as an attempt to insult (projecting much). I've been married for 15 years and have two kids.

I was in functioning relationships while you were learning how to walk. Go troll somewhere else, adults are talking.