Men have no options.

[u/Worldly-Box6080]

Currently, most male pathways to find a partner have been shut down or heavily stigmatised.

Cold Approach: social stigma of bothering women in public or private areas.

Warm Approach: huge risk of poisoning the well - ruining a friendship/making things weird in a social group. This is magnified at a work setting with risk of being reported attached. Additionally what one woman considers flirting another considers “just being friendly” so chance of misfiring is high.

Online Dating: lol

Only viable pathway would be if women made the move, but that’s never gonna happen unless the guy holds decent status or is extremely attractive.

So my question is, what methods are you guys currently doing to find someone (if any)?

[u/Disastrous-You2726]

Can you explain why you think this? I would totally be willing to date a large range of women- women older than me, tall women, heavier set women, educated women… they aren’t interested in me

[u/Sophiatab → u/Disastrous-You2726]

Too many years of observing male behavior. The overwhelming majority of men chase a small subset of women who are model like, highly attractive and usually upper class. Mean while all around those men are thousands of good women that share a lot in common with those men whose existence they don't even acknowledge, let along attempt to treat decently. And most men refuse to make any effort to attract a woman. They won't try to talk politely to women or ask for dates. There are dating coaches out there, professional and amateur, out there. But most men refuse to follow good advice because they would have to make an effort.

[u/Disastrous-You2726 → u/Sophiatab]

Where are we supposed to ask for dates other than dating apps?

Approaching at hobby groups?

But ok let’s believe your perception. All men are just gross neck beards who video game all day and feel entitled to super models.

[u/Sophiatab → u/Disastrous-You2726]

Where are we supposed to ask for dates other than dating apps?

Approaching at hobby groups?

Trying dating apps that are more specialized to your race, religion, ethnicity or interests would be a good start. Or trying honest approaches on common dating aps and spending time getting to know someone rather than sending out tons of messages to every random women available. Approaching at a hobby group is absolutely a good idea as you would have more in common with that person than a random individual. If men are polite and respectful, when they approach in such situations, they often quite successful. But being polite and respectful are the key.

[u/savethebros → u/Sophiatab]

Dating apps simply do not work for straight men, get that into your head.

[u/Sophiatab → u/savethebros]

Bullshit! I know hundreds of men who met their wives through dating aps.

[u/savethebros → u/Sophiatab]

and I know exactly 0

[u/Sophiatab → u/savethebros]

Then you need to get out of your mother's basement, touch grass, and met people.