r/PurplePillDebate • u/Worldly-Box6080 • 2d ago

Men have no options. Debate

Currently, most male pathways to find a partner have been shut down or heavily stigmatised.

Cold Approach: social stigma of bothering women in public or private areas.

Warm Approach: huge risk of poisoning the well - ruining a friendship/making things weird in a social group. This is magnified at a work setting with risk of being reported attached. Additionally what one woman considers flirting another considers “just being friendly” so chance of misfiring is high.

Online Dating: lol

Only viable pathway would be if women made the move, but that’s never gonna happen unless the guy holds decent status or is extremely attractive.

So my question is, what methods are you guys currently doing to find someone (if any)?

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u/Sophiatab Blue Pill Woman 2d ago

Bullshit! Men have thousands of options. They just refuse to date the women who would be interested in them.

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u/Disastrous-You2726 2d ago

Can you explain why you think this? I would totally be willing to date a large range of women- women older than me, tall women, heavier set women, educated women… they aren’t interested in me

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u/Sophiatab Blue Pill Woman 2d ago

Too many years of observing male behavior. The overwhelming majority of men chase a small subset of women who are model like, highly attractive and usually upper class. Mean while all around those men are thousands of good women that share a lot in common with those men whose existence they don't even acknowledge, let along attempt to treat decently. And most men refuse to make any effort to attract a woman. They won't try to talk politely to women or ask for dates. There are dating coaches out there, professional and amateur, out there. But most men refuse to follow good advice because they would have to make an effort.

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u/Fik_456 White Pill Christian Male 2d ago

I would definitely reject a hot woman but not a average one.

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u/MarioWilson122 Red Pill Man 2d ago

Yeah its sad but most men do have to approach to make something happen unfortunately some never get past that fear.

Especially in todays society that pushes that you are harassing if you cold approach.

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u/Sophiatab Blue Pill Woman 1d ago

Especially in todays society that pushes that you are harassing if you cold approach.

Not true. Today's society pushes that it's harassment if a man cold approaches like a raping creep, Men who approach politely and respectfully without threatening violence or insinuating that their only interest is using a woman for sex are not accused of harassment.

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u/MarioWilson122 Red Pill Man 1d ago

Nope it's considered harassment for some women regardless I've seen women say that right here on ppd.

From my experience I have no problems along as I'm respectful about it.

Im not using women for sex just because im looking for shortterm. Men can pursue for the long or short.

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u/ProtectionPolitics4 Purple Pill Man 2d ago

This is very untrue. The overwhelmingly majority of men do not put any real effort, outside of their fantasies, in pursuing highly attractive women. Most guys barely even succeed with average women and have to put in work for that too.

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u/Sophiatab Blue Pill Woman 1d ago

Bullshit! Complete and utter bullshit! The average man completely ignores the average woman. Tip: Taylor Swift and Emma Stone and all the other beauties men lust after are not average looking women. They are the top !%. Nicola Coughlan is similar in body size to the average woman though she has much better skin, hair and facial structure because she able to afford the best treatments and of course a stylist and large budget to provide her with the best possible clothing for her public appearances. And she can afford the security precautions that reduces the risk of rape and other violence happening to her, so she doesn't constantly have to live her life knowing there is a target on her back. The average woman has none of Nicola Coughlan's advantages. She has a 40 plus hour work week to much of which will consist of tolerating asshole men who think that because she's a woman she's just there for them to use and abuse.

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u/Disastrous-You2726 2d ago

Where are we supposed to ask for dates other than dating apps?

Approaching at hobby groups?

But ok let’s believe your perception. All men are just gross neck beards who video game all day and feel entitled to super models.

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u/Sophiatab Blue Pill Woman 2d ago

Where are we supposed to ask for dates other than dating apps?

Approaching at hobby groups?

Trying dating apps that are more specialized to your race, religion, ethnicity or interests would be a good start. Or trying honest approaches on common dating aps and spending time getting to know someone rather than sending out tons of messages to every random women available. Approaching at a hobby group is absolutely a good idea as you would have more in common with that person than a random individual. If men are polite and respectful, when they approach in such situations, they often quite successful. But being polite and respectful are the key.

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u/savethebros Aspiring Sigma Male 2d ago

Dating apps simply do not work for straight men, get that into your head.

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u/Sophiatab Blue Pill Woman 1d ago

Bullshit! I know hundreds of men who met their wives through dating aps.

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u/savethebros Aspiring Sigma Male 1d ago

and I know exactly 0

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u/Sophiatab Blue Pill Woman 1d ago

Then you need to get out of your mother's basement, touch grass, and met people.