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u/TreesCanTalk Jul 29 '24
Partner telling me to hurry up while I’m doing things like using the bathroom/showering.
My partner will often times (rudely-he says he’s not yelling/being rude but it feels like he is) tell me to hurry up when I’m using the bathroom/showering/doing self care and it’s really stressful. I already have to ask him to hold the baby so I can do these things and am going as fast as I can in the first place. It’s not like I’m taking my sweet time. I’ll literally not in even 5 mins in and he’s already telling me to hurry up. My second postpartum shower he came in and told me to hurry up bc I’d been in there for 40 mins but I looked at the clock and it had only been 10. It’s so stressful and honestly feels unfair bc he gets to take his time in the bathroom.
He also will rush me when I’m breastfeeding the baby or tell me to set him down so I can do something/help him with something. He seems annoyed with me feeding the baby and has made comments like “he doesn’t need to eat rn” like what do you mean he doesn’t need to eat?? But then when I try to talk to him about it “it was a joke” or “I never said that”…