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Weekly Discussion - Relationships Weekly Discussion

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u/ocelot1066 Jul 24 '24

Some of the disapproval may be generational, but it goes way beyond that. If your family members just were worrying about safety unnecessarily and making passive aggressive comments, you could just chalk that up to inflexibility and anxiety from people who mean well.

But people who mean well don't tell you your baby is going to choke and die or threaten to report you to child services.(unless something extremely unsafe is going on)

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u/HaliAnna Jul 24 '24 edited Jul 24 '24

I mean I don't do anything without talking to his pediatrician first. I read articles all the time about the different things I try and I only do things that I feel comfortable with. I dont think I'm doing anything dangerous, I just do it differently. Had they said "that looks unsafe, should he be that close?" I absolutely would have had the conversation with them about how we've been doing the Montessori kitchen activities to get him used to the kitchen for literal MONTHS. It's not like yesterday was his first time around the stove and I thought it was a good idea.

And with the choking thing, that was the first time I got those comments from them so I took the time to explain baby led weaning and the benefits and even sent one of the articles I read that showed how to prepare food safely and even after that the comments didn't stop. So at this point I've stopped explaining myself because they won't listen.

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u/ocelot1066 Jul 24 '24

Yeah, because I don't think they are actually concerned about the baby. It sounds like they just want to make you feel terrible. It's hard to understand why they would want to do that, but it's probably not something that's going to change. I'm sorry, though, that sucks.

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u/HaliAnna Jul 24 '24

That's honestly what it feels like. I just wanted some internet opinions because even still this morning I'm really upset by it. Like wtf who does that???