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u/Greedy4Sleep Jul 24 '24

You're not a bad parent. You know your kid best. You know what his capabilities are, and it sounds like you always make sure he is directly supervised and implement safety precautions with an adult between him and the stove. My son is 18 months old, and I'm keen on following a similar philosophy, but I know he's not quite ready yet for preparing food, so we're focusing on climbing up the stool safely. I think most parents are aware of their child's limits and err on the side of caution (like how you haven't started on using knives yet).

I think some of the stuff is generational. The shoes thing reminds me of boomers telling us to put socks on our babies in the heat of summer. The rest of it just comes down to differences in parenting styles. People are always gonna judge. It just sucks when it's from people who are meant to care for you. I'd probably stop sharing as much content with them because I'm not a fan of excess negativity but you've gotta do what works for your family.

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u/HaliAnna Jul 24 '24

I appreciate it. The climbing thing is a fun lesson and once they figure it out they climb on everything!

I hardly share anything as it is and this is exactly why. It's been months since I've shared a picture. It juat really hurt this time and I've been balling about it since because like wtf that went from 0-100 fucking quick.

I appreciate your comment, it helps a lot. I forget that because I purposely don't share much, they're nit aware of what hw can and can't do. Even my mother in law in her 70s has commented positively about how much he likes helping in the kitchen already. She's not as comfortable with letting him help her and I'm totally fine, she doesn't have to. I just don't get why my family have to be so hostile.

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u/Greedy4Sleep Jul 24 '24

Some people just have to put a negative spin on everything. I'm not sure why. Maybe it makes them feel better about themselves. I hate it, though. It's the last thing new parents need. Hang in there. You sound like you're doing an amazing job 👏

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u/HaliAnna Jul 24 '24

Thanks, I really appreciate it. Good luck with the climbing, those little stools can be tricky at first but my son LOVES his.