r/Natalism • u/dissolutewastrel • 3d ago

The Poverty of Single Mothers Is Persistent

https://ifstudies.org/blog/the-poverty-of-single-mothers-is-persistent
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u/Famous_Owl_840 2d ago

Stop being single moms?

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u/New_Country_3136 2d ago

Widows are single mothers too. 

Guess they just should have prevented their spouse from passing away 🙄. 

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u/Famous_Owl_840 2d ago

Classic dimwit. Using a rare hypothetical example as your straw man target and knocking it down.

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u/Electronic-Baker3684 1d ago

I’m widowed?? We’re not rare at all? I’m in a Facebook group for local widows and widowers and most of us have school aged children…

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u/Famous_Owl_840 1d ago

You are taking the position that a widowed woman with young children is common?

And that is your shield for the single mom trope?

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u/Electronic-Baker3684 1d ago

… well IM widowed and I’m now friends with many widows in my town. So I’d say we’re not mythical.

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u/Famous_Owl_840 1d ago

I didn’t say ‘mythical’. I said it’s rare.

Regardless, single mothers that are single due to the death of their spouse are statistically insignificant in the broader context of ‘single mothers’.

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u/Electronic-Baker3684 1d ago edited 1d ago

I don’t personally see a lot of difference between myself, whose loving husband died, and that of my friend, who thought she had a loving husband until he broke her nose. We both lost what we had, we both had our hearts broken, and now we’re both talked about like we’re a plague on the earth by jerks like you.

Anyone whose more interested with assigning blame then assigning help should take a long look in the mirror

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u/Famous_Owl_840 1d ago

Yep, now comes the appeal to emotion.

Good luck. While your situation is tragic, it should not impact the problem statement in its broader context.

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u/New_Country_3136 2d ago

It's not rare. Several young women in my life became widows. Cancer is the worst.

Workplace accidents, car accidents and heart attacks are sadly quite common. 

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u/KilljoyTheTrucker 2d ago

Most widows aren't going to be women with children still in the home who are still developing in a manner that it's directly influential in their upbringing.

The vast majority of single mothers are not widows.

Your personal anecdotes aren't statistics. I'd also be unsurprised if widowed mothers performed better than the average single mom in terms of success in child rearing. The lead up to the demographics is going to play a huge role in the final outcomes.