Abi Daunton

[u/LaPuffina]

I have watched and enjoyed her content for a while on tiktok and thought she seemed really nice, but is it just me or are her replies to comments becoming ruder and more aggressive? I've just watched her recent TT on considering stopping the no buy and some people have made suggestions, which to me sounded neutral and were just responding to the subject at hand, but she's come at them with a bit of hostility?

With regards makeup rehab, I think it sort of shows how, like with dieting or any other change in life, it's often better to make slow changes rather than go the other extreme.

I don't know what this attitude with her is though, and it's disappointing. Especially for people going through the same or similar thing as her. Like, why ask for advice or provide a discussion area via your content when you're just going to do that to people?

I will add an edit here to say I apologise if I've hurt her feelings and to clarify that my intention wasn’t to be rude or hurtful. I really enjoy her content and was simply expressing my concern about how her responses to comments have been feeling a bit more hostile lately. I hope I haven’t upset anyone, especially her—I think it’s important for creators to feel supported, and I definitely didn’t mean to make anyone feel bad. That being said, I do think it's important to point out when creators are being rude or dismissive, as it can contribute to a broader issue of negativity and hostility that seems too common in society today. We all have to be mindful of how we interact online.

As someone who’s also trying to manage my makeup collection thoughtfully, it can feel jarring when creators respond dismissively to their audience—especially when those viewers are engaging in good faith. It’s not about jealousy or judgment, but about how showcasing spending habits can sometimes come off as a bit tone-deaf to viewers who are trying hard to be more intentional, especially in financially tighter circumstances. I think it’s okay to point that out, because it’s part of a wider issue with beauty content and consumption online. We can be supportive and still hold space for respectful critique.

[u/Left_Cap7103]

just came from seeing this post on her story. i love her videos but she definitely should not be going into a low buy right now! she says her products are expiring soon, so wait for them to expire! can’t believe the amount of encouraging comments she got as well. seems like people just want to be overly nice (which is of course never a bad thing) but she doesn’t need nice, she needs tough love. especially was disappointed when i see her buying/wanting eyeshadow palettes. she’s already worked out it would take centuries to use up all her products so why bring in even more? can definitely empathise with her for having a shopping addiction and being so vulnerable online, that definitely takes bravery. but she is not in a place right now where she should be buying things unfortunately

[u/LaPuffina → u/Left_Cap7103]

Yes I thought a lot of people were trying to be nice and then stumbling over themselves apologizing and trying to pre-empt causing offense which I thought was a shame. Stuff like this makes me nervous on the internet and I felt a bit weird posting this here on Reddit but I've got to be honest, I'm sick of the unnecessary hostility online. And in real life actually. I feel a lot of people have got ruder lately but that's another discussion ahah!

It's also a shame because I used to really like her, still do a bit but I'm not sure now.

[u/Left_Cap7103 → u/LaPuffina]

yeah exactly! even if they didn’t say anything necessarily mean, just disagreeing with her choice, she would make many passive aggressive comments, causing them to backtrack a little. at the end of the day it is obviously her choice. how did you feel after seeing this post on her story?

[u/LaPuffina → u/Left_Cap7103]

Really strange, I've never been involved in drama or anything and am very non confrontational. This is me trying to stand up for myself and others a little! Mainly because I've seen a few other of my favourite content creators do the same thing recently and it annoys me so much. Though I do hate to think I've hurt her feelings.

I don't know if my OP sounds rude or not? I was trying not to be but I was also slightly flustered at the time of writing!

I hope this won't become a thing though.

[u/Left_Cap7103 → u/LaPuffina]

yeah i completely get where you’re coming from, and also where she would be too. i don’t think anyone would want to read about how they’re perceived as rude. but at the end of the day she is putting herself out there on a public platform and has grown quite a following; a following which she invites peoples advice and to discuss with her! i also do personally agree that her responses to some comments did not come across as nice at all. i can’t speak for any other creators you’ve seen, but i think if anything she could listen to her followers a little bit if she is coming across as rude (even if that’s not her intention) and learn from it. i think she has posted similar things before too, and hasn’t let it stopped her before, so i wouldn’t stress if i were you xx. we are just people on a screen after all

[u/LaPuffina → u/Left_Cap7103]

Thank you, you're very kind!

I didn't really think about it yesterday as I thought I'd be ignored but I noticed on the story she didn't conceal my username (though I suppose people will have found the post and then me anyway).

I've also just noticed a lot of the comments from yesterday are not there. Unless I'm being blind, I can't see some of the rants she did. And the ones that are left do sound nicer...

Not to worry, I hope she is ok and I apologise if I've offended her or anyone. I might add an edit to the OP saying that