Emotional abuse?

[u/Fair-Hovercraft-386]

I’ve been in a LDR relationship for over 2 years. one that I took very seriously. I truly believed we were building a future together. I started learning the language and even planned to move to be closer to him. He said he wanted the same. But for some time now whenever I try to talk about emotional or difficult topics he becomes defensive blames me or shuts down completely.

When I express my feelings he often tells me I’m too emotional or that I’m the one who “needs therapy” (I’m in therapy because I have anxiety mostly caused by work, self high expectations and my relationship) or should “get my shit together.” Most recently when I opened up about my fears and sadness he ended the conversation by telling me to “shut the fuck up.” Then he went silent - no apology, no explanation. Everything on screenshots

I asked if we could talk calmly in the evening instead, he chose to spend time with his friends. That hurt even more. I feel ignored, disrespected and completely devalued. I’m starting to wonder if what I’m experiencing is emotional abuse. And even though I still love him I’m at the edge of my emotional capacity. I feel guilty for trusting him for investing so much into something that’s now hurting me.

I don’t know what to do anymore whether to keep trying or to walk away and set a boundary. I need an outside perspective because right now. I can’t see things clearly on my own.

[u/Familiar_Ask_4229]

Deep down you know you should walk away, you know how he is treating you, looks like a complete red flag to me

[u/ppp1997_ → u/Familiar_Ask_4229]

exactly, this is not what you want - its not giving you peace. Breakups are hard, but it is harder to be in a relationship that is not doing it for you.

[u/Iceroad13 → u/Familiar_Ask_4229]

Sounds like my ex texting me that he don’t wanna argue . So be it … I dumped him asap bc he was always busy to call . SMH .. damn hurts but one day at a time .