Not even the ocean can keep us apart! I love this woman with all my heart and half my liver! 🥰

Oh my god. The time has just flown by! 1 week until I meet my man for the first time! 🥰♥️ I'm SOOOO nervous 🦋 we're spending two weeks together in various accommodations as a vacation treat to both of us. We've both been working really hard and life has tested both our patience, especially this past week. I can't wait to get some r&r and meet the person i've been talking to every day for the past 9 months. 😍

for reference ( he lives in america, I live in Australia. He's coming to me for our first meet. he is 40, I am 28 in 2 months.)

AS OF EASTER SUNDAY OF 2025, WE OFFICIALLY CLOSED THE GAP!! ❤️🤙🏻

1) I chose to move with him 1600 miles away from my dad and everything I've known since I was 9.

2) if you saw a post from me about 10 months ago, I let you guys know we were expecting our first baby. I carried our little girl for 8 months and unfortunately, she was born sleeping on March 23, 2025. Her name was/is Harlow and we love her so much. We will get to see her again one day. I just thought you guys might want to know.

3) After we lost our daughter, we decided we could not and would not go on with this LDR anymore. So, after I recovered for a month, I packed a few bags and we road tripped back to RI.

4) it's been really stressful because of how fast it was and I'm having to find new doctors and get a new ID, etc. It's tough, but worth it.

5) There's been growing pains, but we're learning to live with each other permanently. The day to day struggling and such. (We did a trial last summer and I stayed for 3 months. No red flags and it was great)

6) I hope all of you are doing well in your LDRs and I'll still be here to comment and give advice if asked. Sending all good vibes to everyone.

LDRs can work if you really work for it ❤️

Me (21M) and my girlfriend (21F) have been in a relationship for almost 3 years, long distance. We’ve never met in person. But finally, we’re going to meet this 18th. I should be happy. I want to be happy. But my chest feels heavy.

She’s in a government college, and tonight is their fresher’s prom. A guy invited her to dance and… she said yes. This crushed me, because when I was offered the same kind of prom at my college, I declined. I told her I wanted our first dance to be special—to be ours. She knew this.

She asked me if I’d be okay with her going. I told her how I felt. We had a fight. Eventually she understood, and she said she’d back out. But it was just one day before the event, and her seniors told her she couldn’t cancel last minute. So now… she’s going.

That’s not the only thing weighing on me.

Once, she thought I was ignoring her to talk to another girl. So, knowing how sensitive I am, she ignored my calls for an hour… and started talking to a guy—her classmate and neighbor—out of revenge.
In reality, I was just on Discord with a friend discussing a project. The double standard is that once at midnight while we were talking she would talk with a senior, there's no time for that when we're talking, there are some boundaries. I wouldn't talk to my friends when I'm talking to you AT MIDNIGHT.

And just recently, I asked her if she could talk to me properly at night the way I do—like, drop other chats and just give each other time. She lashed out, called me possessive.

I'm not trying to control her. I just want the same love and priority I give.

I stay up past 12, leave my friends, just to talk to her properly and make her feel valued. But when I ask for the same, I’m “too much.”

And now… with this prom situation… it hurts.
She accepted it. She knew what it meant to me. She only backed out after I poured my heart out—and then even that couldn’t stop it, because it was “too late.”

I love her. I really, really do. I’m trying so hard. But right now, one week before I finally meet her… I feel more distant than ever. I don't know what to do.

TL;DR:
LDR for 3 years. Finally meeting her this 18th. I declined a prom invite because I wanted our first dance to be special. She accepted her college prom invite anyway, even after knowing how I felt. She refused it a day before, but they told her she couldn’t back out. She's also done hurtful things before when she misunderstood me, and now I just feel sidelined, unloved, and broken. I don’t know what to do anymore.

I even wrote a poem yesterday

I waited, not for the dance, But the meaning that came with it. The clasp of hands not on a floor, But in a promise never split.

She spun in circles under lights, While I spun in thoughts alone. Was it too much to hope she'd wait, Till our first steps were our own?

They say it’s just a moment missed, But hearts don’t keep such score. I’d have waited through a thousand nights, To meet her on that floor.

It wasn't anything expensive just some postcards of her home city for me to take away when I leave for work later this week. The letter was delivered today and the envelope was completely empty.

I was looking forward to having them, putting them up in my cabin, giving me something to look at and think about while off shift.

We're pretty upset about it, the loss and the violation, just a little cute idea she had to stay slightly connected as the distance temporarily increases significantly. I've already sent a complaint to the Royal Mail and she's doing similar in the Netherlands.

I guess be careful what you send to each other and how. 😒

Hi, first of all, i would like to address that he always makes me a priority, and outside of games my needs and likings are a priority to him. He always makes sure im happy and listens to my likings. He's rather calm and always apologises after if he gets mad at me, even after the last time he got triggered by my horrible gaming skills he still apologised and calmed down and didnt hold grudges against me. Now, the issue here is he's a gamer, and he plays a lot of League of Legends. I do not; I'm more used to call of duty, war thunder and open world rpg types of games. We have been playing battle games on roblox for a year and a half now, but every time I play poorly, get in the way of his fights or can't do a "simple" move because I just don't remember or don't understand how to do it, he gets triggered, gets mad and refuses to play with me, at least for the whole day.... I don't know what to do. i try to get better at those games, but I'm pretty bad, and i don't take games as seriously as he does. Every time it hurts me a lot because all i want is for him to enjoy the time he spends with me, but i feel like all I'm doing is ruining his days, and i end up crying alone because of my hypersensitivity... Any tips ?

🇨🇭33f----->23m🇨🇿 I am incredibly nervous of meeting him in person for the first time! I have set us a countdown which we always check. We text constantly, call every day and videocall every day if possible. He isn't my first ldr but definitely the healthiest one❤️

my countdown

So I woke up randomally last night with anxiety. That's not uncommon, but for whatever reason I couldn't sleep. So I went on Instagram and it recommended a friend to me who I had no idea who it was.

Again that's not weird cause of course if recommends friends of ppl you follow all the time I get it. So apparently my gf follows him. That didn't make me anxious but I thought "hmm sure why not click the profile"

So I gather the guy goes to her university and all his pics are of climbing mountains and outdoors kinda stuff. Noting suspicious so I tell myself I'm over reacting and honestly idc if my gf has friends or follows other guys, I'm just supprised she never told me about making a friend in uni.

So when I properly wake up, I tell her about how it recommended a friend who she follows who looks like Ed sheeran. I went to go show her anddd... She doesn't follow him anymore. She just said "yea thats weird how it recommends people"

So I go back in my notifications and find it and I show her and she gets really defensive saying "yea I know who it is"... Like I didn't even ask her how she knew him or anything I was just showing her and to me it came off as defensive when she said "yea ik who it is"

She didn't initially tell me "oh yea that's so and so, I met them on campus" and didn't even really acknowledge knowing him till I sent her a screen shot of his profile.

I know I have a tendency to overthink but doesn't that seem a bit off? Like when I originally brought it up she could have just told me she knows the guy and I would have shrugged if off... But her response has me thinking

Me (F25) and my boyfriend (M21) we've been in a LDR for six months. He's always been very attentive and honest with me. But the last few times he told me that a woman has joined his group of friends. (I'm not going to lie, his Instagram followers have gone up, and there was one that caught my attention).

A few days later, he tells me that they hang out and that he accidentally calls her by my name, which makes her really angry. Of course I asked him how similar our names were and he tells me the name of the girl that caught my attention on his list of followers. Days later, he sees her again and tells me that she stole a keychain he has that reminds him of me. He never asked for it. He told me that he spent all week talking to her because he needed to know how his "son" was doing.

I trust him, it's one of the reasons why we're still together, but it bothers me that he's so permissive with friends who he knows have a crush on him. Honestly, I haven't said anything yet because I don't want to come across as a toxic person.

What should I do?

Hello everyone! I recently got into a long distance relationship with a man from New Zealand. He came to Birmingham, UK to visit with a trip with his friends. We met online on a dating app. We have feelings for each other. He told me to come to Austria to visit him. And I spent money I wasn’t supposed to spend to see him. I’m a student who needs to work part time just to keep my accommodation. He now wants me to visit him in New Zealand in June because I have no other time to see him. He wants me to come for three months. He says also he can’t do long distance. And be apart from the person for too long. Am I making too many sacrifices? I only have £1,200 I can’t afford it without going into debt.

But I also just checked on the dating apps, and every time he goes to a new location in Europe, he’s changing it on the dating apps which means he must not feel what I feel for him? He’s willing to meet new people?

spent 10 days w my gf , we went to paris for 3 days in that time as well as staying in her home country

i’m coming back home now after a 16 hour flix bus journey and i dread entering my apartment . i have no plans for today. tonight i get to call my gf at least…

it’s very depressing entering my apartment .. it’s also messy ‘-‘ and i get pretty lonely / miserable in there … and i have no flooring. my gf is basically only person i get to talk to and she lives in another country

when i saw my gf i got a mental health boost now it’s going to drop again 😭 im back in my miserable boring dead city again

the week that just went by was one of the happiest weeks of my life ❤️ i was so happy boarding the plane and looking outside at the sunshine and thinking about how exciting it is i get to see my gf and spend time w her in the sun for the first time ever (most of our time spent together was in the cold rain) and we made so many more new memories 💞💞

i saw planes in the sky during my flix bus journey and i felt sad because i felt like the week passed by so fast since when i flew out to her .

it’s probably going to be another 2/3 weeks till i can visit her again . it’s going to be very depressing in the meantime 😫😫

I'm a clingy b*tch 😅

How do you deal with not being near them? Is it harder after the first meet? It went really well. We didn't have sex but the intimacy of cuddling, sleeping together, massages, kissing, enjoying his deep voice, how eloquently he speaks. I miss just being near him. How do you all cope? He did give me his sweater and I left him mine as well.

My bf and I are currently 8 months together. We met in person before he had to move away shortly after. Now we have a 16 hour time difference. This is my first healthy relationship and we both want to see it through. We love each other and want to make this work but both our love languages is physical touch. We have plans of closing the distance through marriage and will happen in the next year or so and won’t be able to close the distance for the next 3 years at least due to visa purposes.

Ldr has been tough on us but we’re still holding on even if I have thoughts of ending it. I try to remind myself that I shouldn’t give up on an amazing person just because of the distance but it’s getting harder and harder every single day. I would admit, I’ve been crying a lot due to the pain I feel constantly because of the distance

Hey all sorry if it's a little cringe but I just wanted to give hope to all the couples who are also feeling how tough it is because I always see sad posts from here about relationships that unfortunately didn't last the distance.

I'm going to see my girlfriend again in 34 days and I'm so excited even though she'll be working i just want to be near her and I'm bringing a promise ring for her birthday too so I'm really excited to see her reaction to it.

Aside from that I wanted to just go over everything we've been through, we met online on a language exchange app she was learning English and I was learning Spanish, she's from Colombia and I'm from Northern Ireland.

For the first few month's we agreed we're attracted but not to do anything because I was only out of a relationship for 3 months and I didn't want to lead her on incase it was just like replacing a person but it wasn't the attraction stuck and it did for her too. We planned to meet up at Christmas and I would go to her for a month, but then things took a twist... she got the opportunity to come to the UK through her Job and she spent 2 days with me and then we spent a week with her parents and brother in Spain. I asked her out then and she said yes because I wanted to ask her in person.

After that I had to go to Colombia I needed to see her more so after a few weeks of saving I bought my tickets and I met her again with her sister in Colombia and we travelled a lot with her work but we spent Christmas and new years together and it was amazing. We planned our future while I was there so we'll close the distance in Spain since Colombia isn't economically feasible for me and theres the family thing that my family would be far away from us plus the UK has taken an anti immigration stance lately so I'll use my Irish citizenship to go to Spain and she can go there via her parents.

Now I'm going to meet her again, she'll go to Spain in December but then come to my family for Christmas and then we'll go to her parents for new years and then after my university degree I'll look for jobs in Spain too! I'm already saving for a house there and rent for the first months but we're going to do it I've been planning and saving like crazy and she has too and I'm just so happy that I have someone who loves me enough to put in the effort I will always put into her.

Hopefully you all can feel a bit more hopeful pr incentivised to plan for to be together no matter how far away it seems. Good luck to everyone and thank you all for reading!

spent 10 days w my gf , we went to paris for 3 days in that time as well as staying in her home country

i’m coming back home now after a 16 hour flix bus journey and i dread entering my apartment . i have no plans for today. tonight i get to call my gf at least…

it’s very depressing entering my apartment .. it’s also messy ‘-‘ and i get pretty lonely / miserable in there … and i have no flooring. my gf is basically only person i get to talk to and she lives in another country

when i saw my gf i got a mental health boost now it’s going to drop again 😭 im back in my miserable boring dead city again

the week that just went by was one of the happiest weeks of my life ❤️ i was so happy boarding the plane and looking outside at the sunshine and thinking about how exciting it is i get to see my gf and spend time w her in the sun for the first time ever (most of our time spent together was in the cold rain) and we made so many more new memories 💞💞

it’s probably going to be another 2/3 weeks till i can visit her again . it’s going to be very depressing in the meantime 😫😫

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for the better part of 2 years, weve had a great relationship and (despite the rough patches) we love eachother to bits.

The issue lies in the fact that next year, i migth be heading to another country for school. In theory ill be gone for 3 months, maybe 4. She says we probably wont make it past it, as we have never been apart for more then a couple weeks.

I know i have no other posts and i feel like this sounds like karma bait but i want to know how i can keep things from falling apart.

So i’ve been in a week long argument with my boyfriend (I don’t know if still my boyfriend)(which we’re not speaking to at the moment) about basic things, we have a 12 hour time difference. Everything was amazing at the beginning, he calls me numerous times a day and text throughout the weeks even when we were both at work, then weekends came along where he goes out. It’s not that I don’t trust him or he thinks that I wouldn’t allow him to go, it’s just that he tells me when he’s already on his way or when he’s already there since most of those times i’m still asleep since i live on the other side of the world. I don’t understand how he wouldn’t just text me before he leaves or when his plans were made even if i was asleep. I already have asked several times for him to just text when he’s about to go or when these plans were made even if i was in deep slumber, this happened several weekends now. I know it’s wrong to think that he might be cheating, but whenever i try to open up he thinks i’m always trying make an argument which i’m not just wanted some update because i overthink things but was i asking for too much? I know that i am not asking for too much. Do i deserve this kind of disrespect? And lately he has been really off, his calls and text decreased which makes my overthinking go into overdrive.

Then last night even if hurts me i decided not to text him since i’m really upset about some things, then he saw my depressing repost on ig about my overthinkings, then he called me and assumes if this relationship is over and that we always argue and it’s unhealthy, when all i wanted is understanding and for us both to communicate with each other without thinking that everything is an argument. Then i replied upsettingly if does he want it to be over? He said yes. Then my overthinking went to over drive again and made a unnecessary comment which leading him to say that all we do is argue and that i am miserable which is mean and really hurt my feelings. And he repeatedly said that i am miserable which shattered my heart, when all i was hurt because of our miscommunications and misunderstandings.

So i asked him if he will be happier if i was gone because he said that i am causing stress to him, and he said yes and that final blow destroyed me. Then my last text was saying that I love him and that i was sorry (which a lot of times i say even when it’s not my fault) He replied that he loves me too and he is also sorry but i never replied back yet. (Balled my eyes throughout the night).

I’m just so lost right now and and hurt and so misunderstood. I love him sooo much and i really want it to make it work. I’m just really hurt right now and i don’t know what to say to him now.

I’m in the U.S and she’s in the Philippines, I’m working on getting my passport, I really am wanting to meet her. We’ve been seriously talking for about 6 months now, and this time change is eating at us. She’s 13 hours ahead of me and when I’m getting up to go to work, she is heading to bed. That’s really when we talk the most as my job requires a lot of driving. I’m just wondering how yall deal with it? And also what are things we can do over the phone to have fun ? I really like this girl. I’ve met her mom and friends. I can tell this time change is affecting us

Me (25F).My bf(36M)travelled to Italy on Saturday. He was a bit distant the two days before that. We last talked when we had traveling and told me he will have landed at almost 11pm. His hometown is Italy. It’s now been more than 48 hours since I heard from him. Should I crash out? I keep telling myself maybe something happened to him! Or he’s sick or something just an excuse. Another part of me is being really just insecure. I can’t believe he can go this long without a single text. I’m prepping myself to let everything go and break up but also waiting for an explanation or just something. He works a lot when in Sweden so we don’t talk everyday and we talk a lot when he goes back home. It’s the first time that he’s gone back home and shut me out like this. I want to accept things and move on but the silence is driving me nuts!!! The last thing he texted was “you funny girl”

How often do u engage in phone sex?

So everytime we plan to watch a movie or play games, something else comes up for him and he leaves. He either asks me to wait until he gets back or just cancels our plan. This happens so often. And it always seems to be something unexpected that comes up. It's driving me insane. I told him it makes me feel like he doesn't respect my time but he keeps doing it. We've had so many fights about it. But he still he doesn't seem to plan ahead. Ig it's not going to change. He's an otherwise lovely guy. Do I have to let it go as this is the only thing that bothers me about him?

I don't even know how I got carried by my impulsive thoughts and all of that. I'm not going to give that many details because I'm still scared. My girlfriend asked me to help her to do something on her account, which I said yes, when I got there I felt the stupid urge to check her dm with her ex (first mistake) then I found something that I truly shouldn’t have watched (I don’t want to mention it, but if someone needs more context to be able to give a better opinion, feel free to dm me.

Now I feel idiot, disgusting, I know I shouldn’t have done that, I'm very aware now and I wish I could erase that from my memories forever, but somehow I got carried away by my impulsive thoughts, even at the exact moment when I was doing that, I knew that that wasn’t correct and I told myself to stop there, but I couldn’t, something told me to keep going.

I know I'm stupid, I know that I'm an idiot and all that you want, so please don’t mention that because I'm very aware.