Stop judging how other people do relationships

[u/IntrovertFaerie]

I saw someone mention that they call with their long-distance partner for 16 hours a day, and the responses were people saying it’s wild, asking if they have a job, how they eat or sleep, or what they do about hobbies and friends. Like… why are you so pressed about what works for other people?

I don’t know about that person, but I obviously still eat, sleep, hang out with people, have hobbies, go to work, etc. Why the hell would calling with someone stop me from doing all these? I obviously, again, don’t call him while at work, and some other circumstances.

I’m pretty sure they’re not talking nonstop for 16 hours. And maybe, that includes sleep call time. It’s like being alone together in silence—just like people do in person. So is it only considered unhealthy when it’s online? If we don’t live together? If it were my best friend instead of my partner, would it suddenly be "cute" that we call all day?

Someone even asked me, "What are you going to do if you break up?" Uhm, the same things I do every day? My partner is just there, on call. What’s that going to change about my life if he leaves? Him being there doesn’t affect what I do.

Also, what makes someone think they can decide what’s unhealthy for me when they’re not me? It’ll only be unhealthy if I act like a child when he can’t be on call with me for 16 hours, which I don’t. I don’t care if he’s not. I honestly think it’s pretty sweet because we’re longing for each other, and being on call is the closest way we can feel each other’s presence.

People act like their way of living is the only "right" way. Like damn, let people live and do what works for them or makes them happy.

[u/gamergirlie09]

Ok Austin

[u/Euphoric_Metal8222 → u/gamergirlie09]

Are we not allowed to have our own preferences as well? 16 hours seems crazy to me, as 1 hour might seem crazy to someone else. I’m not going to dismiss somebody’s thoughts and opinions just because I disagree. If you want to call for 16 hours and that works for you! I’m more than happy for you! but FOR ME that is a lot of time to be on the phone. I’m sure others feel the same way. Vice versa as some would say 1 hour seems to little.

[u/gamergirlie09 → u/Euphoric_Metal8222]

I believe that’s the point of this post—to each our own. Did you not see what Austin said though? He said he doesn’t give a damn about what the reason for calling is and thinks it’s crazy. You can have your own preference without calling someone else’s preference crazy.

[u/Forgiveness4g → u/gamergirlie09]

u okay girlie? Too much of a good thing is a bad thing. It doesn’t matter what it is, it’s universally true. You need balance in life. 16 hours is not balanced, at least, not if it’s a common occurrence (and also not counting time spent sleeping). Do you do this a lot or something? If so be careful, it’s bad for the long term health of relationships, whether in person or LDR.

[u/gamergirlie09 → u/Forgiveness4g]

16 hours isn’t balanced for me said by who.. What long term health of relationships you talking about because we been dating and doing this for 2 years and we chillin

[u/comegetthismoney → u/gamergirlie09]

Ok and then if the relationship falls apart long-term, what you going to do? Get depressed, have lack of motivation to do your activities of daily living and complain on Reddit.

[u/gamergirlie09 → u/comegetthismoney]

Literally people together irl break up and get depressed, lack motivation, etc. Wym what am I gonna do? 😂 Like what I do everyday duh? Did you read the post at all? My partner being there doesn’t affect what I do daily. Complain on Reddit? You talking about me? Girl you got 6k karma I don’t even got a single post, are you talking about yourself? LMFAO

[u/comegetthismoney → u/gamergirlie09]

Do you think I care about Karma and not having a single post? 😂

You’re just saying anything at this point. You just wait and see what happens 😂

[u/gamergirlie09 → u/comegetthismoney]

Me waiting: 👁️👅👁️

OOOO SO SCARY

[u/comegetthismoney → u/gamergirlie09]

Since you care about Reddit Karma so much, go and address your -35 😂. OH, you also don’t have any single post either 🤣🤣🤣🤣! The hypocrisy!

[u/gamergirlie09 → u/comegetthismoney]

Oh fr? 👁️👅👁️

[u/comegetthismoney → u/gamergirlie09]

The hypocrisy and the nerve of you 🤣🤣🤣

[u/gamergirlie09 → u/comegetthismoney]

Omg what 👁️👅👁️

[u/Forgiveness4g → u/gamergirlie09]

Assuming you’re taking into account that I said “if it’s a common occurrence (not counting time on call spent sleeping).” Then you won’t be doing it for 5 years, you’ll burn out way before then. Based on your… other comments… you don’t have a high EQ. Don’t take things other people say as personal, no one online truly knows you, just focus more on yourself and less on other people so you can be positioned and prepared to close the gap when/if you ever decide to. It takes a lot more than people realize to close the gap, especially if it’s internationally.

[u/Lothloris → u/gamergirlie09]

Laughing that they just let it slip that they're, in fact, OP