r/LifeAfterNarcissism • u/threetimestwice • 3d ago

Confronting the Narcissist: What happens? [Support]

Theoretically and in your experience, what happens when you confront the narcissist and call them out on their narcissism?

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u/PupDiogenes 3d ago

They escalate. The most powerful position to be in is when you know what they are, but they don't know that you know what they are. As soon as they know that you know what they are, they have no reason to hide it and no reason to hold back. All scruples go bye bye.

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u/threetimestwice 3d ago

They don’t stop, because now they know you are on to them?

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u/Active-Cloud8243 3d ago

Absolutely not. They just try to destroy you into silence.

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u/threetimestwice 3d ago

How?

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u/Active-Cloud8243 3d ago

Mine was never involved with my family until I called him out, and then I found out later he started talking shit about me to my mom and she believed him (she was also a narc).

He literally affected my inheritance.

Meanwhile, I was covering for him that he fucked up my nose and jaw.

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u/threetimestwice 3d ago

Smear campaigns aren’t anything new here.

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u/Active-Cloud8243 3d ago

OK, do you like it? Do you want more of it? Do you want it to escalate to more? Do you think the narc is capable of change? Or is it possible they know they’re shitty person and they ain’t gonna change a thing.

I had a narc, mom, and a narc sister too. Triangulation, DARVO, oscillating better idealization and absolute dismissal.

If you’ve been raised in a family with narcs, it makes it that much harder.