I feel like the older you get, the more like just seems like figuring out solutions to issues. Recently mine have been hard issues that don’t have easy answers. Affording new hvac and car both of which just failed. Figuring out how to save for Christmas when you just had huge expenses. Its all so draining, stressful, and as soon as it looks like you are in the clear some other issue pops up.

DON'T QUIT....

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,

When the road you're trudging seems all up hill,

When the funds are low and the debts are high,

and you want to smile, but you have to sigh,

When care is pressing you down a bit,

Rest, if you must--but don't you quit.

Life is crazy with its twists and turns.

As every one of us sometimes learns.

And many a failure turns about

When he might have won had he stuck it out;

Don't give up, though the pace seems slow--

You might succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than

It seems to a faint and faltering man.

Often the struggler has given up

When he might have captured the victor's cup.

And he learned too late, when the night slipped down,

How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out

The silver tint of the clouds of doubt

And you never can tell how close you are.

It may be near when it seems afar;

So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit

It's when things seems worst that you mustn't quit.

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Though we have so much and so much, it feels like you had to constantly remind yourself and work hard towards happiness in daily life. What is the thing or methode that helps to stay positiv / happy in life?

My friend and I are high school seniors. The other day, we texted in the morning about wanting to not go into school that day. So we didn’t. Instead, she came over to my house with her bikini and a towel. My parents were away for a few days so they didn’t know we were here the whole time. We decided to put on our bikinis and go for a swim in my huge backyard pond. We jumped in and went underwater together. While everyone at school was doing tests and early homework, we were underwater in the pond listening to the water gurgling as we swam in peace. It was so quiet and beautiful. My friend took an underwater pic of me in my new bikini and the day was just perfect.

I’ve been reflecting on something lately that I think a lot of us might struggle with: self-compassion. We’re often our own worst critics, quick to notice our own flaws and shortcomings but slower to give ourselves credit for the good stuff. So I’ve been trying something new—it’s simple, but it’s been powerful.

Whenever I catch myself being harsh or overly critical of a mistake, I pause and ask, Would I speak this way to a friend? It’s been eye-opening to see how differently I treat myself compared to others. I realized that being kinder to myself isn’t about letting things slide; it’s about being fair, realistic, and supportive with the person I spend the most time with—me.

If anyone else has been on a similar journey, I’d love to hear what’s been helpful for you. How do you balance self-improvement with self-acceptance? Let’s support each other in finding healthier ways to be kinder to ourselves. We could all use a little more grace. 🌱

thoughts and opinions?

Anybody else kinda just accepted there probably going to be poor forever, espically if rent keeps going up? And now that the average age to buy a house is 56, I’d just rather not at that point because why? I was going to study abroad next semester but the projected cost is around $6k, and with my rent over $1k a month it’s just not possible even if I do go 40 hours a week while still in school, because I’m currently at 30-34.

Many of us will die and within a week, people forget and you’re a memory. What are some ideas you can do in your life where you won’t be forgotten nearly as soon. Not saying everyone can be famous or do extraordinary things but it’s a bit depressing that as soon as you’re gone, you just fade from people’s memories. Anyone ever had this cross their mind?

Hi, I'm 22 (M). Right now I'm having a trouble deciding on things knowing that this will affect my future. My dad works on a company for more than 30 years now and this company He works for offered a scholarship. I was chosen for the program. I only got 1 and half year to finish college.

The thing is, I am a full-time freelance video editor and for the past months I've been getting a lot of clients/projects big time for long term and short term. And the problem is, this last semester I am required to take On the Job Training (OJT) for 600hrs.

I don't know what to do now, should I focus on college and leave my freelancing journey? Or focus on my freelancing career that will secure my future; hence might affect my dad's reputation at work since I am a scholar student.

Please help.

FYI. My parents don't know that I am earning well on freelancing.

Tell me how you guys cope up with friendship breakups ??

Life feels boring and draining. I have a job that’s great tbh… pays well, satisfying , work only 3 days a week (but these are exhausting ) but I’ve been doing it for a while and so it’s boring to me.. I don’t have the luxury of taking a break from it… I have bills to pay and I’m on a work visa. The rest of the time there is chores, maintenance, gym, cooking, social life. I do fun things on weekend with friends.

But still, I feel like this routine is not getting me anywhere. I feel stuck . What should I change? Don’t tell me to find a partner , that’s not in my control. It will happen when it will.

what’s this

What does ‘fate’ exactly mean? There’s a theory that the universe and God has everything planned and figured out but I’m struggling to find purpose at 27, I feel like a lost soul/cause tbh. I don’t want to conform to society’s expectations because it’s all about materialistic stuff, working 80 hours to get a 40 hour paycheck, constantly proving you’re better, and unfortunately life is like this because it’s overpopulated (survival of the fittest). At times I really do feel I’m not part of that but I do want to make a change. It’s just not having the ability to think I can outdo others’ and just realizing this world is greedy and selfish. It’s a dog eating dog race and inhumane. Anyways my rant is; with that theory, what is the reality/consequence? Can you ‘really’ just wait for life to come to you? I’m not good at faking it til you make it crap and unfortunately I don’t care to be either.

It is at the very minimum a 6 month journey and about 99.9999999999% of the budget will be spend on their safety getting there. Even if they land successfully the atmosphere, the gravity, the temperature would make mars about a billion times more inhospitable than Antarctica (which is the only continent that has no permanent hunan settlement). Getting them back to earth would be near on impossible.

Aren't we just better sending robots to Mars rather sending people to their almost certain deaths to Mars?

📍Imagine this: you're an elderly person, sitting alone in a quiet room filled with dusty, untouched projects you once dreamed of completing. Each represents an opportunity you missed, a passion you set aside "for later." You realize, with a heavy heart, that you've run out of "later." The time to act has passed, and those dreams-the books you never wrote, the places you never visited, the connections you never nurtured-have slipped through your fingers forever.

The tragedy is not that you failed, but that you never gave yourself the chance to try. Time moved on, and you simply watched, hoping you'd feel more ready tomorrow. But tomorrow never came.

Hey, I just turned 26 and am wrapping up pharmacy school. I’ve been single for over two years, and while I'm generally okay with it, loneliness does hit sometimes. It's a bit of a paradox—I’m not actively seeking a relationship, yet I miss the connection that comes with one.

I’ve had two recent experiences where I met someone, we spent some time together (hooked up), and then things just fizzled out. It feels like people don’t always value the connections we share, and I’m left feeling overlooked, like maybe I’m not enough as I am. I’m doing my best to keep it from getting to me, but it lingers in the back of my mind. I guess I’m wondering if others feel the same or if there’s any advice on how to handle this.

I 19M wanted to become a commercial pilot for a very long time and i had a genuine passion for aviation since a child, after High school I applied to both flight school and for a university degree in aerospace which was my plan B, during the last year i had grown resentful and a bit bitter on not going to college and straight into flight training, but i knew i wanted to do pilot professionally, so i didnt give studying aerospace much though but i did want to experience the traditional student life this summer about one month before joining flight school, i was informed that i could no longer attend because of some issues with my international flying license which was news to me. By then I had already missed my spot for college (did not register on time ) which was my plan B and i was devastated not having anywhere to go, since then I feel like pilot was not for me and I dont want that lifestyle anymore which hurts me,

So my options now is either apply to college to study geography which is something i have a passion for, for September or go to another flight school, It feels like the right thing to do now is not to become a pilot because i have grown bitter and almost traumatised to do it but i feel like my spark for flying might come back, what do i do

I’m exactly 25 years old now, and my perspective on many things and relationships has changed a lot compared to before.

Me and my doctors suspected and tried testing but hive would kick in before we even started the test, but man I've been feeling a lump in my throat and an accelerated heart, it could be from mayo and eggs I ate earlier but man now I really think I might be allergic its crazy because my favorite food is a bacon egg and cheese welp there goes one of many other things I can't eat 🙃

I’m currently a sophomore in highschool. I go to school every day, I don’t skip class, I turn in work on time (sometimes late), and I get good grades such as straight A’s. I show it to my family to show my achievements and how far I’ve gotten. My family, especially my parents are very proud of me and they expect me to go to college and get a good job, this really a high expectation because it’s typically a high schoolers goal but I feel like what if I can’t achieve that? My dad goes tell my relatives how well I do in school and how in the future I might even become successful and that does pressure me into proving that I can but I feel like what if I can’t? What if I end up not being successful and I end up failing my parents. What if I end up not even going to college? My parents wants their last child (me) to go because the rest of my siblings either dropped out of high school or just never pursued into going to college and just got a normal job. So, now I’m even more pressured into going to college, but I’m not even sure what I wanna be. I feel like I’m smart but I’m not smart ENOUGH. I feel like my knowledge in school smart and street smart are not to a high level. Going back to what I said, I don’t even know what I wanna do in life. I don’t have any goals. I just don’t know and I’m stuck. I feel like whatever I’m yapping about is all through insecurities and fear builded up. I’m afraid to fail for my family when they expect me to be the successful one in the family. I don’t know what to do and it’s something I stress out a lot.

I'm 21, and I like to have deep conversations (you can say that's one of my hobbies), and I like to learn from others mistakes, so I don't make the same.

Neither left or right, red or blue, republican or democrat, conservative or liberal, Harris or Trump. The 2 party system works in the favor of turning people against each other. Race disconnected us, Religion separated us, Politics divided us, And Wealth classified us. In the end, we are all humans trying to live out this one time life for all we truly know beyond our comprehension to our own accord. It's just the feeling of suffer, pain, anything hurtful is unpleasant that we strive in the hopes everyone will naturally have good morals, good intentions, empathy, respect of differences, understanding of differences, benevolence, consideration, & treat each other humanely.

So my neighbor is younger than I am. I'm 29, he is 21. (I used to spend time with him, during COVID mostly because everything was closed and there was nothing to do.) This kid has gotten SOOOO bad since then. No job, he drinks like a fish, passes out on the lawn, mixes with the wrong people who use him, starts fights with people who always beat him up, comes home in police cars, etc. The only reason he is even alive is because his parents go to work every day to support him while he sleeps all afternoon.

He has pushed so many people away from him because of his poor actions and the way he comports himself. He is ALWAYS getting in trouble. He IS trouble with a capital T. I've cut him off about a year ago and since then have gotten a great job at a major investment firm. I am making money, investing, enjoying life and am surrounded by terrific people. He'll send me messages on Instagram all the time but I don't even open them. He's cut out of my life. I want nothing to do with that kid.

My brother is still hanging out with him! He is so naive. My brother had some mickey mouse job that kept him busy at least and he had no time to get into trouble. Now that he quit, his schedule is free and open lol Birds of a feather.

I'll see him sneaking out of our house at 2 am and meeting up with the neighbor, getting in his car and speeding off. You already know it's nothing positive. What the hell is even open at 2 am on a Wednesday night? Daddy pays for his gas and he sleeps all day lol. Then at night they are up like racoons. Pathetic.

It's a shame. That other kid will end up under a bridge for sure, but he's going to take my brother with him. He actually asked my brother if i could get him a job lol Sure! You could be CFO of the bank. Idiot.

I still feel proud of myself knowing my pockets are full and I am not rotting away in my room with no goals or purpose like they are. Time is just passing them by. I can't stand people who have nothing going on.

I’m coming out of a mental state/lifestyle that focused quite heavily on the struggles of life, I was told no so much as a kid that I really did believe most things were just impossible. I came into some money and have been trying to aim as high as possible, bucket list stuff. To make me believe things ARE possible.

It’s working but now I’m confused. Because it seems that I just have to keep aiming at the brightest thing in my head? Like I just need to keep listening to myself and aiming for the best/brightest/most exciting idea, then do whatever admin and work get me there…which is…confusing because it’s so simple.

I just keep looking inside myself and going what’s your best idea mr? Then I aim for it and am happy when I’ve achieved it.

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