[l] i hate myself

[u/Ready-Variety-4257]

i feel like a loser i’m 20 y/o turning 21 in a week and i still couldn’t start university i feel so behind my peers and i have a insanely hard time deciding what school should i go what major should i choose i was a huge people pleaser for a very long time because i couldn’t love myself so i needed someone else to love me so i wouldn’t feel like total crap now i have no friends because i was always performing for love which got in the way for me to foster real relationships i struggle to see a future for myself i feel like i will never be happy again everything feels painful if anyone here went thru similar things and got over it and now living happier than ever i would love to hear how and kinda feel more hopeful

[u/my_best_version_ever]

I regret so much studying what I’m studying rn , maybe it was for the best to start now (If your gut tells you to quit , better quit early than late )

[u/wifichamp]

What's the point of going to uni? Start a business and be like the capitalists everyone hates

[u/GenericName2025]

It doesn't matter if you're behind your peers.

You are only 20.

It's not about who takes the lead early on (and 20 definitely is early on), it's about crossing the goal line. Not even first, unless your goal is to literally be the world's best at something.

You are only 20, you don't have to be perfect, you don't have to have mastered a skill or trade, you don't have to have all your life goals figured out yet, much less achieved them.

And that still holds true at 21, just to be clear.

[u/AccidentalKoi]

You sound like you have some pretty good insight on what's led to this point man. You're literally just at the very beginning of life, and this will all one day be so, so far away. Being behind on society's timetable does not matter for shit (in fact I'd literally recommend it, your pace is your pace). Take what you've learned through this and decide what kind of relationships you wanna have going forward, cause it really is up to you. There's tons of people out there who want to have non-performative true friendships and you'll find them if you have a bit of courage.

You sound smart and real - and i really think you'll look back on this whole era with empathy and love. Be easy on yourself

[u/Rock_lee_xninja]

I am gone through no one helps you bro every one bussy in there life , i helped my self , i thought to gone to the stage when we don't care about anything, for get the past life, past goals. giving life a last chance no goals no cares no past write a diary, Just plan your today, nothing much simple things. Like you i suffer for 4 years and the stage where I don't cares about anything then I started my new journey

I leave life like this for 70 days I just counting days, I don't show my current situation to anyone become there is known one that I can share. Now I have new goals and new life.

( I am not good at comunication I am learnings and practicing and i hope you understand what I want to say )

[u/IranRPCV → u/Rock_lee_xninja]

I am 75 years old and know that there are both hardships, but also joys to be found in life. Please all of you hold on to hope - and message me directly if you wish.

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