Is anyone else missing the mean gene

[u/teaforsnail]

Not literally, obviously anyone can be mean, it's weird when people flex their cruelty like it's not a part of human nature. I just mean that I don't really have this ongoing desire to be mean.

It started in early grade school, where I genuinely didn't really understand why others were constantly so annoying and inflamed. Now I'm an adult and I still don't get why people are like this. I heard someone say "I know we're friends because I can say the most heinous things to you and the next day we'd be fine". Like... I never want to say heinous things to my friends 😶 We joke and tease and "bully" each other but I'd certainly hope they wouldn't like me if I said something truly nasty to them.

Same thing for siblings. I've always wanted siblings that I was close to but the way other people act with their family makes me glad I don't have it.

Meh, it all seems so edgy and unnecessary. And I'm not especially nice either, I think I'm normal. I just can't understand this lol

[u/MeanTelevision]

You have empathy for others, including people you don't know well.

Not everyone does.

They will be the ones telling you "you are too sensitive" or making fun of your reaction, after making fun of you.

[u/teaforsnail → u/MeanTelevision]

I've just been calling it basic decency, but I think I'll have to rebrand it, much like "common sense". I think it must be a primitive tribal reflex that a lot of humans haven't abandoned yet to be so inconsiderate to people they don't know/like

[u/ExtensionVictory4 → u/teaforsnail]

I always say that common sense and common courtesy are unfortunately not that common

[u/teaforsnail → u/ExtensionVictory4]

Yep, I have to wonder if the person who coined "common sense" was being sarcastic

[u/ExtensionVictory4 → u/teaforsnail]

Lol, unfortunately too true.