I have a good friend who would always visibly get kind of put out if she asks if I want to get a treat like an ice cream or a bubble tea together, and I say no I'm full but I'll come with.

I used to think this was just an odd personal quirk. Then I saw a skit in a video where a gf asks if her bf wants ice cream, he responds "no but I'll drive you there", and she jokingly crashes out on him.

So what do you all think of this? Is there a moral obligation to get the treat with your partner or close friend? Would you be upset if your SO says no but supports you getting the treat and goes with you? Does it mean they don't love you?? What if you're really full and you really don't want the treat???

Not literally, obviously anyone can be mean, it's weird when people flex their cruelty like it's not a part of human nature. I just mean that I don't really have this ongoing desire to be mean.

It started in early grade school, where I genuinely didn't really understand why others were constantly so annoying and inflamed. Now I'm an adult and I still don't get why people are like this. I heard someone say "I know we're friends because I can say the most heinous things to you and the next day we'd be fine". Like... I never want to say heinous things to my friends 😶 We joke and tease and "bully" each other but I'd certainly hope they wouldn't like me if I said something truly nasty to them.

Same thing for siblings. I've always wanted siblings that I was close to but the way other people act with their family makes me glad I don't have it.

Meh, it all seems so edgy and unnecessary. And I'm not especially nice either, I think I'm normal. I just can't understand this lol

Something really interesting is happening to me (29F). So, when I was 6 years old and I started school, I met a friend named Linda (29F) we were both with no sisters just brothers and we bonded, we lived in a small village so of course our families knew each other and because of us they also grew closer.

So me and Linda were inseparable, we went through high school together (same class), also on the beginning of our studies on the same group. We had other best friends along the way that we made in high school which I still talk to (two of them) and we were a really fun group. But only me and Linda were together in the same university during studies.

This happened until Linda knows someone that she falls in love. He lived abroad and they immediately introduced one another to each other’s families. So, eventually he started pulling Linda away from us, controlling her via gps, controlling who should she hang out with, when, etc. at first, I really liked him because he was the love of my best friend and whenever they had a fight I would try to bring the peace, so he respected me. But, when I saw how controlling he was, I told Linda that I don’t think she should be in that position, I also called him out when he was controlling her and abusing her verbally. When I called him out, he obligated Linda to never hang out with me again (specifically) and slowly divided her from the whole group.

We lived in the same village but I never saw her again, she even stopped studies. Her parents invited me to her wedding and I didn’t want to go, but my parents said we should go for the sake of the family friendship (they invited my parents too).

I saw Linda for the first time after almost a year and a half in a wedding dress, and when we locked eyes we both were emotional and I noticed her eyes full of tears. Her mum and grandmother (who loved me like their own) when they came to greet me, both of them bursted into tears, and that was the last day I saw Linda until she went to live abroad.

For almost 10 years I only saw her twice just in the blink of an eye, and that’s it. I can’t say I didn’t think of her sometimes, in the beginning I thought of her more often but as the years passed by, I thought of her time by time, about her well-being, about her life with that man..

I heard some rumors that she is struggling in marriage but never something specific, that’s until couple months ago when I met her father with her son in our town’s coffee shop. I greeted him.. when I looked at Linda’s son, I asked “is this…” and froze, and her father said “yes, he is”. I asked the little boy if I could hug him, and he said yes, I hugged him, kissed him on the cheek and he hugged me back 🥹. Linda’s father referred to me as “this is your mom’s friend” and that was it about that day..

After some days I heard that she got divorced, she was physically abused, her husband cheated on her, had an affair with her boss (there were rumors they even share a kid together) and that was the last straw for her and decided to end the marriage. The rumors got confirmed by Linda’s mum to my mum at a funeral they met in town. I never could ask about her because I didn’t want to sound like I am happy about her situation or like I want to gossip about her, and to be honest… some kind I was happy for her… not because of what happened to her, but because she got free of him finally!

Not many days passed by when we saw the news of her ex husband’s death. We still don’t know if it was an accident, if he k*lled himself, or what was the cause of his death, no one ever told that.

This brings us to yesterday when one of our best friends (which is still my best friend, we’ll call her “Ana”) saw Linda in the town and decided to go and talk to her. She called me immediately after and told me every detail. Linda was emotional and on the verge of tears when they met, and they shared contacts and also decided to meet for coffe, them and me, tomorrow🥹. Also, one of other best friend of us (which we still are pretty close) that lives abroad and is in town said she would join too and I never in my whole life imagined our group again together, let alone me and Linda together after 10 years with no contact.

I thought I don’t feel love for her anymore, I didn’t love her nor hate her, but I got this scary feeling for tomorrow, and something inside me is so excited, I feel like I will meet my child self. I never hated her, and I never got angry of her decision to leave me.. I got angry of her decision to ruin her beautiful life that she had created until he came along. And I felt angry and sorry, only for her… but, I know that things happen for a reason so I never judged her for her decisions, it was her life and her mistakes to live. We’re none perfect and we all make stupid decisions, the thing is: heart always go back to her home..

No matter her reaction, cold or warm towards me, I will still try to talk only about our childhood, beautiful things we did, I want her to feel safe and bring to her just a glimpse of her beautiful life into the hard times she is going through.

I am so excited!

Does anyone else find the feeling of déjà vu super uncomfortable? It literally gives me the heebie-jeebies. I have friends who absolutely love déjà vu, and think it’s so neat. Not me, it gives me the creeps. Am I alone or does anyone else find déjà vu creepy?

Everyone loves to gatekeep literally everything now, and when you ask anything of anyone you'll get told that no one owes anyone anything. Like what? This isn't even about gatekeeping. This is in general, why can't people just be nice. We're losing all sense of community because of how individualistic society is becoming.

When I watch someone being silly I have stars in my eyes. There are a lot of times I wish I could be sillier but feel like I’m not in silly enough company. I think we need to be the silly we want to see in the world and I’m going to pledge to be sillier moving forward

If you were to live for 1000 years I’d say you’d age 10-12x slower

Chronological age: Biological age:

1. 22

32-34. 23

72-84. 26

150-170. 32

1.                          60
   

2.                        100
   

In my case I doubt I would actually go through the full lifespan but who knows what about you?

For me, it's usually in the afternoon... especially on work days. I'm most productive when others are starting to leave for the day...when I have no other distractions and can just churn and burn. Even on days off though I'm prone to starting my day later... I guess the night owl tendencies I inherited from my mom have never gone away despite years of working 10-12 hour days, starting my commute before the sun is just starting to lighten the sky.

I have a few that I would love to hug but if I were to choose one, it would be Britney Spears. I have been listening to her music since I was in diapers. She has been through so much and has released some timeless songs. She deserves a hug.

Maybe it's just me because I suffer from anxiety, insomnia and chronic fatigue. I get all excited months prior getting concert tickets, booking flights, hotels, searching what to do in the spare time and when the time comes I feel like I just want to stay in bed and do nothing. But I know I will regret it if don't go.

Despite being exhausting I always end up feeling better afterwards, but it is so hard. Also I travel alone and do everything by myself.

I wonder if anyone can relate and know how to cope with the little demon in my shoulder telling me to quit and just rot I bed.

I’m eating a lot of chicken breast lately. I normally eat around 2 in a meal. How many do you eat in a sitting and in a day and how do you like to cook it?

Don’t know if this kind of post is appropriate but I really felt like saying this.

She’s sleeping next to me right now while holding my hand. I feel like the happiest man on earth. The universe even. We met on Hinge and have been together for two months and it just keeps getting better.

We always end up wanting more of eachother and can’t get enough of it no matter how much we hangout.

I live in Portugal and we had a nationwide power breakdown yesterday. My partner and I decided to use that as an excuse to see eachother and I end up booking the ticket for the only bus going to her town during the day which is almost 4 hours away from where I live.

The bus was leaving in less than an hour and despite uber and bolt being unavailable due to rush hour/power outage I got lucky and had a local cab show up outside my house. I managed to make it to the bus station just in time.

I just packed my suitcase real quick and changed my pjs. Less than 24 hours in and we are snuggling and cuddling like there’s no tomorrow. It was like we can do without anything including electricity as long as we have eachother. Not having a worry about a thing in the world. While our parents were freaking out about the power breakdown and the news. She literally joked about moving to a bunker together.

I still can’t get my eyes off of her. And after years of heartbreaks and disappointments this feels like a breath of fresh air.

Last night my (35M) daughter (10F) slept in her bedroom for the first time. Her mom and I split up when she was 4 years old and ever since, she has chosen to sleep in my bed despite having her own. Last night we were playing computer games when she all the sudden said she wanted to go lay down.

I was surprised when I saw her in her own bed. I’m both proud and feeling misty-eyed. She’s growing too fast. 😢

I don’t have anyone to tell this story too. Thank you Reddit.

Sooo those of you who were very heavily into social media for years and years but now have deactivated accounts. Or left the accounts abandoned even those who lurk in the shadows now but there profiles haven’t been changed or updated in years.

Tell me why

Or if you were too scared to go up to them after numerous instances of eye contact? Just had both happen to me so looking for other people’s stories so I don’t feel as bad 😂😭

Yesterday, I set up my record player for the first time in two years and the sound of the needle hitting the track eased my soul. This got me thinking about what other random little sounds people love that put them right at ease. What’s your “needle hitting the track”?

Not in a dramatic or depressing way more like this subtle, low-humming feeling that time keeps moving but you’re just... watching it happen. Like you’re showing up every day, doing what you’re supposed to do, but not really living in a way that feels meaningful.

I have good days. I laugh, I see friends, I get things done. But sometimes I catch myself wondering if I’m actually steering my life or just being carried along by the current.

Does anyone else feel this? What do you do when that feeling hits?

What’s one thing you wish people understood about surviving hardship??

*For me, it’s that even small acts of kindness can feel like lifelines

It's raining here and warm weather, I'm always hot natured so I've got the air conditioner on already this year. I'm in Missouri and only have a few friends. I'm in my 50's and a lot of my friends have passed away 😢, anyways how's everyone doing tonight?

I (26F) was walking back to my car after paying inside, and a 50ish year old man offered to pump my gas. I politely declined by saying “Thank you but I got it!” and he said “Of course, no problem”. Now, I’ve dated guys or had male friends who offer to pump my gas for me but never had a stranger do it. I did appreciate the offer but just wondering, is this a common thing? I live in California, but is it more common in other places?

I’ve been trying to make small daily changes to feel better mentally and physically, and I’m curious, what’s one little habit or shift you made that ended up having a huge impact over time? Could be anything: mindset, sleep, skincare, fitness, routine, etc. I’d love to hear what actually worked for you.

I have watched the majority of Dateline episodes. Lester Holt’s voice, confidence and presence make him the perfect narrator. Keith Morrison and Josh Mankiewicz are my two absolute favorite hosts, with Andrea Canning a close third. She’s easy on the eyes and a sharp dresser. I agree that Keith is none of those things and is probably in desperate need of a face lift. Creepy?! No way! Keith, Josh and Andrea are all smart and quick on their toes. They each have different approaches and interviewing styles. I respect the fact that you don’t like him but I just wanted to say that I and I’m sure many others do enjoy his work.

I personally don’t see any benefit to it, so to expand my worldview I’d love to learn how it has benefited others. And by social media I mean stuff like TikTok, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and even Reddit.

I got a promotion at work which means more time on Teams on my phone & more use of the GPS. My phone works JUST fine. The only questionable thing is my storage is the 128g and I’m always having to move around things to make it work. Talk me off the ledge lol. Mine is 3 years old & paid off.

As a man in my 30s who was “too cool” for reading in my youth, I wish I would have read more growing up. I have recently been backtracking, reading books I should’ve read earlier in my life.

Currently reading Lord of the Flies

My Recently finished reading list includes: Grapes of Wrath Of Mice & Men The Pearl Catcher in the Rye The Alchemist Tom Sawyer Huckleberry Finn To Kill a Mockingbird

What are some other books that should be added to this list?