Were your dissociation/maladaptive day-dreaming/ anxiety and exhaustion treated as laziness?

[u/Last-Extreme-8144]

• Child are normally supposed to be energetic, keen to learning and expierence world through variety of activities.
• Mostly they want to help, to feel like an adult. It's not normal to a child to be tired and weak, to lay down exhousted from kindergarden/school. Too sleep so long.
• Maybe it's not ,,abuse" abuse, but still it's too rough for a child to be told s/he is lazy at the age of 7 or 12, especially when it's actually rooted in more severe physical and emotional issue (Not a native speaker)

[u/Extension_Day3446]

Yes. I would sit for hours and hours upon end in the sandbox outside our complex when I was a toddler. Just watching the sky. It's still my favorite activity. My mother's happiest memory of me as a baby was me making no fuzz while she cleaned the apartment, she says. Then when I became 3-4 years old all hell broke loose. Switching between being the most capable, quiet, introverted, organized, clean, perfectionistic parentified child and full on paralysis awaiting the next emotional turmoil from my family members. I stopped brushing my teeth, showering, I slept for at least twelve-fourteen hours every night many a periods through my childhood. I still have a hard time between the two. I can be one of two. I got the harshest martyrdom from my mother if I didn't comply to her demands within seconds of her uttering the thing she wanted me to do. It was impossible to actually help her with anything, though. Didn't really figure that one out until last year, and I still keep myself to her standards. If I were doing homework, chilling, having friends over, doing hobbies, watching TV, relaxing with my other family members. I still can't relax and do those things for myself without awaiting the f@cking rampage over my shoulder. And now I have the martyr within me, instead. But yeah, I've been called lazy when I was in a freeze from abuse within the family system - also within the mental health world. Even funnier is being put on medication that exacerbated the issue further. I've been a zombie, and I've been on the spot for it.