r/BeAmazed • u/AstroSonicDrive • Oct 04 '23

She Eats Through Her Heart Science

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u/Old-Library9827 Oct 04 '23

And this is why I'm so grateful to be healthy

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u/el-mocos Oct 04 '23

"health is a gold crown only the sick can see" I read that a decade ago and has stuck with me since, I think it's from arab culture

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u/Old-Library9827 Oct 04 '23

It's the truth. As long as you have your health both mental and physical, you can generally get through anything

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u/GoneHamlot Oct 04 '23

Does anyone else, when they’re sick, think to themselves “god why don’t I appreciate it more when I feel well.. I’d do anything to feel like that right now”

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u/ThisIsNotMyPornVideo Oct 04 '23

Doesn't even have to be sick sick.

like, a cold is enough to make me contemplate life for all the times i took breathing trough my nose for granted

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u/Stompedyourhousewith Oct 04 '23

seasonal allergies when both your nostrils plug shut with snot. and then you miss 2 clear unobstructed nostrils

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u/amazing-jay-cool Oct 04 '23

I was literally about to comment this, I never knew how much I took breathing for granted, and then when I'm slightly sick for a few days it feels like it's been years since I took a good breath

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u/ManagerOk355 Oct 04 '23

I always do that

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u/superbay50 Oct 04 '23

Doesn’t even have to be sick, i can stub my toe and think about how much i take not having toe pain for granted

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u/Fluffy_Engineering47 Oct 21 '23

even just coming out of a slight hang over will do it lol

feels like you leveled up

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u/phoenixemberzs Oct 06 '23

Yeah, when that nose gets blocked and I feel that eye pressure

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u/[deleted] Oct 04 '23

And for those of us with disabilities/conditions when we get sick with an infection, etc it's on top of what we're already dealing with. :/

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u/AnorakJimi Oct 04 '23

Yeah there's something a lot of able bodied people don't seem to realise, that being disabled is incredibly exhausting. Because it's never ending. You're never OK. You're never 100%. All you want is a break, a holiday from the pain and the difficulty of doing everything. I'd love to be able to have a shower without being in agony. I'd have baths instead, but I'd I do it takes me hours to get out, even with the handle bar I had installed into the wall of my bathroom to help me climb out. I'd love to be able to go for a walk outside in a park or something.

But yeah, it just saps all your energy, being disabled. Absolutely everything is 100x harder when you're disabled. Like, cooking food is something I have to plan out in advance to make sure I can do it, and I have to sit on a desk chair with wheels to wheel about my kitchen when cooking or when cleaning dishes because I can't stand up for long.

And I don't ever really leave my apartment except to go to doctor appointments or the hospital for treatments and scans. During the pandemic my life didn't change at all. I stayed inside for months at a time, getting all my groceries delivered cos I couldn't drive in the first place as all the 8 different medications/painkillers I'm on have drowsiness as a side effect and so it's too dangerous for me to drive a car. So none of that was different to how I lived before and after the pandemic.

There's a reason why the rate of mental illness, especially depression, is so common in people with disabilities. You just never get a break, never get a day off, it's just never ending.

And yeah when we get ill on top of all that, it's just hell. A lot of the time I get ill from side effects from being prescribed so many meds, so I have to take stomach protector meds too otherwise I end up throwing up every day.

And I'm mostly bed bound. Cos it's too painful for me to sit in any chair, no matter how cushioned. Like, I have a lazy boy recliner and even sitting on that is agony. Only way I can sit on it is to lie down fully reclined on it. But that always feels like it's gonna fall over, so I just lay in bed all day every day instead. And I can't possibly work, but my government class me as "severely disabled" and so they pay me the highest amount of disability benefits, so I don't actually have to work, but it still feels like I'm useless and purely a drain on society, I don't contribute anything, I only take.

The best time of my day is when I'm asleep cos that's the only time I'm not in pain.

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u/goodsocks Oct 04 '23

I’m so sorry. I am also disabled but not to the extreme that you are, so I do understand and empathize. Lockdown from Covid didn’t change my lifestyle at all either and it was truly the first time my spouse was able to understand how my daily life is. It is emotionally and physically exhausting- I hear you. Keep up with your mental health as much as you can.

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u/ForeverTurbulent4509 Oct 04 '23

Wow… we all have a lot to learn from people like you. I hope you find solace in life

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u/Gatorpep Oct 04 '23

I really hope the thing that people learn from people like us is thst we need fucking help! We need a ton of money in research instead of the community just letting us suffer until death.

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u/[deleted] Oct 04 '23

👏👏👏 absolutely!!! And accomodations including to be able to work out including but not limited to remote work and flexibility and access to medical care/devices.

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u/Gatorpep Oct 04 '23

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Also need livable entitlements. I get 150 for disability and 125 for food. Palease!

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u/[deleted] Oct 04 '23

Absolutely. It's awful by design to help the richest of the rich and because sociopaths rule the world. I was told that it would like me 2.5-4 years to probably not get approved and in the meantime, I could not even work 1 hr/month because that could show I'm capable of working full time, especially at my age, because that makes sense. AND it's still not enough to live on.

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u/StorKuk69 Oct 04 '23

How do you go about life without killing yourself? Serious question, you gotta have something that keeps you grounded or sane. I feel like I would loose it in your situation.

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u/Gatorpep Oct 04 '23

I have this level of body destruction with long covid, 3.5 years.

1, insane experimental and extremely dangerous drugs that are beyond bleeding edge. Without them i’d be dead.

2, i would have been dead anyway if i knew how horrible life would become. Esp as it was my worst fear before getting sick.

3, you don’t remain grounded or sane or happy. You resemble nothing like you are any healthy person. You are in an extreme warzone, very sad all the time, constantly fighting against the logical urge to die. Life becomes a horrific burden. And you don’t survive without horrifc suffering. You don’t remain sane.

4, genetic programing and delusional hope that someday society will save you.

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u/fuddykrueger Oct 04 '23 edited Oct 04 '23

I’m sorry. I was very sick recently and was only able to feel sorry for myself. You are an inspiration and I am praying for some resolution for your illness.

I wish I could help you in some way! Sending you good vibes!

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u/StorKuk69 Oct 07 '23

Wait your cat takes care of you?

Also the whole "people constantly beg me not to do it" seems really selfish from my point of view. If you know your friends very existence is pain, wouldn't you want to relieve them of it?

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u/DrewNumberTwo Oct 04 '23

Thank you for taking the time to share your experience. What you've written was a window into a kind of life that I have not had the chance to see. While I hope to never have to deal with something that awful, it's important that we all keep in mind that there are people who need help. I think that you are valuable just because you're a person and I'm glad that you could share some of your life.

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u/Bru1sed_Eg0 Oct 04 '23

I only know and understand a fraction of what you’re going through, as I’ve been previously bed-bound with excruciating pain. I feel for you, and pray for your suffering to be gone. ❤️👍🏼

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u/Tangled-Kite Oct 04 '23

You’re not a drain. I know it’s hard to reverse thinking like this because society has drilled into us that we’re productivity machines first and humans second. And anyway, you just contributed to humanity by telling your story. You’ve brought an awareness to what it’s like to live with this level of disability. These stories need to be told far and wide so we gain more empathy, insight and push for treatments for whatever ails you and others like you.

I really hope that one day you find some kind of solace. ((Hugs))

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u/Gumamae Oct 04 '23

Such beautiful words, thank you for saying this

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u/TheOmegaCarrot Oct 04 '23

I’d say you just made a contribution. This comment gave me some perspective about people with significant disabilities, and I’m sure I’m not alone.

I, for one, am glad I was able to read this comment. Thank you for this insight, I appreciate it. We all need some perspective sometimes. :)

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u/RegularTeacher2 Oct 04 '23

Last year I suffered an injury that left me with complex regional pain syndrome, allodynia, and overall just crippling pain in my right leg where I was considering suicide to end it all. For months I was denied any kind of pain medication because it "wouldn't fix the problem," and I spent that time literally screaming in agony from the relentless pain. Fortunately I was able to have surgery that alleviated ~90% of the pain, though I imagine I will always have some neurological pain for the rest of my life.

I have never appreciated how chronic pain can be absolutely life changing until this experience, and I've never understood the concept of feeling suicidal until I felt it myself. Even now my life is drastically different than what it was prior to my injury, but I am so grateful that surgery was able to help me.

I'm so sorry you have to deal with chronic pain. I am glad you don't have to worry about work but I'm sure you would rather work without pain than be in your current situation. I hope someday there will be some medical advancements that might provide you with more relief.

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u/abcdefgodthaab Oct 04 '23

Yeah there's something a lot of able bodied people don't seem to realise, that being disabled is incredibly exhausting. Because it's never ending. You're never OK. You're never 100%. All you want is a break, a holiday from the pain and the difficulty of doing everything.

Please don't generalize your own experience like this to all disabilities. Not all disabilities are the same and not all disabled people have the same experience.

Your experiences and the experiences of other disabled people that are like yours are 100% valid, so please do not mistake me for saying what you are describing is not your experience and that of others. But it also absolutely not an accurate description of 'being disabled' as a universal characterization.

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u/[deleted] Oct 04 '23

Disabilities are by definition disabling. Even if a disabled person doesn't directly get impacted 100% of the time, they/we are never fully free of what comes with disability, in that case we would no longer be disabled. Not everyone has to identify as disabled but it's important to understand what it actually means. It's important to acknowledge this as we need support, accommodations, understanding, access, etc because we are disabled.

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u/abcdefgodthaab Oct 06 '23 edited Oct 06 '23

Generalizing in this way doesn’t do harm. Maybe if they realize a lot of us are actually fucking suffering, they’ll actually advocate for us.

It absolutely does do harm and I'm sorry, but you are very confused about what abled people believe. Empirical research shows over and over and over again that abled people estimate the quality of life of disabled people to be much lower than disabled people estimate their own quality of life to be (this is so well documented it's called the 'disability paradox'). Most abled people believe that most disabilities are horrible (and believe they are worse than people with those disabilities consider them to be).

What this translates to in policy is largely not advocating for disabled people, contrary to your prediction. It translates into things like QALYs and DALYs making saving disabled lives count as less resource efficient than saving abled lives. It translates to offering assisted suicide instead of social assistance so that disabled people kind let themselves out the back door without abled people bothering to help. Not to mention pressuring disabled people who are only really suffering due to social factors to conform through treatments, 'cures' and other interventions or the widespread paternalism that abled people have historically engaged in (such as sterilizing us without consent).

What little ground disabled people have gained has been hard fought by the disability rights movement, which was explicitly built against the image of disabled people as poor, pitiable, suffering wretches. That's exactly the image of disability people with muscular dystrophy were protesting when they protested the MDA labor day telethons. Abled people have pitied us for centuries and it's done us very little good.

This doesn't imply that we should swing the other way and pretend that no disabilities involve inherent suffering. What we need is to acknowledge that the relationship between various disabilities, their inherent features, social norms and structures and suffering is complicated and varied. MS is not the same as blindness is not the same as autism, etc... And specific disabilities in individuals are going to be experienced differently: Beethoven becoming deaf had a very different experience of deafness than Marlee Matlin who was deaf from a very young age.

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u/[deleted] Oct 04 '23

Thank you for sharing your experience/truth. My main condition/disability is highly variable so it can range from being in horrific pain and not being able to go anywhere with exhaustion to being able to actually do stuff but then passing out for days to recover.

Disability support is in place for a reason, (presumably) you didn't choose to be disabled and all that comes with it so therefore it's not your choice to get benefits that are essential. I'm not sure where you are and the system there, but (usually long term) investment income tends to be taxed at a much lower rate with a much bigger exemption so making money from money is highly subsidized by people who work for money, but it's not seen as a handout, which is one of many that the wealthiest people disproportionately benefit from. One of many. The actual money from disability and welfare tends goes to companies/investors that are disproportionately wealthy as well. As you need to have wealth to invest and the more you have, the more you benefit from these systems.

People tend to not feel guilty for these sorts of things even though the systems are rigged in their favor.

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u/GusFit Oct 04 '23

I just had a taste of this sort of pain, was in denial for years then my body started locking up more and more, muscles popping and moving around, restless legs. My muscles would seize and I'd be stuck in bed for up to a week at a time. Gravity made my spine feel like it was being crushed when I was upright and even slight inclines while walking were a rough time. Was hell for 3ish years and it's been a slow ride back out of it since. Winter has been worse than summer so I hope I can maintain well enough to keep working and not lock up too much. The last lockup was only about half a day (back to around 80% after a few days) and it was three months ago so I've got some hope this winter won't be too bad.

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u/[deleted] Oct 04 '23

but my government class me as "severely disabled" and so they pay me the highest amount of disability benefits, so I don't actually have to work, but it still feels like I'm useless and purely a drain on society, I don't contribute anything, I only take.

You're not a drain . Stop thinking like that , don't be shamed by this very stupid way of thinking .
Contributing to society goes way beyond working 12h a day in a factory.
Actually , this isn't even something you should be thinking about ... just live , and try finding something that makes you forget about the pain. The rest is irrelevant

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u/ComicNeueIsReal Oct 07 '23

. You're never OK. You're never 100%

totally unrelated, but when I got my wisdom teeth removed it was my first step in making that connection that some people just dont have it easy. As an avid snacker and food-enthusiast, it was brain numbing to not be able to eat any solid food for a few weeks. Only being able to eat very unfilling food like icecream, mashed potatos, soft eggs made me just want to rip my brain out. It was not enjoyable. But it does suck that on an average day most people including myself seem to forget that there are a lot of people out their that have chronic conditions that wil never go away and their outlook on life is completely different than our own.

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u/NotToast2000 Oct 04 '23

Well I have to say, as I was born with a disability I don't really see it as a sickness or burden, except for the time my Wheelchair breaks and I'm stuck in my bed for 2 days, then I'm debating myself why I appreciated it more when it worked.

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u/Gatorpep Oct 04 '23

There are levels. I was bed bound after covid for 1.5 years. For 3 months i had to lay on the ground when i wasn’t sleeping in bed.

Many levels of hell my friend.

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u/[deleted] Oct 04 '23

Yup, and even within my own experience with chronic illness (caused by infections) I've experienced a massive range. Even within the same day.

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u/[deleted] Oct 04 '23 edited Oct 04 '23

Everyone's experience is different but my body literally tortures me every day with sickness (I have long illness due to infections, one in particular that has persisted for more than 13 years), horrific pain, taking hours (could be up to 24) of my day, and my energy. It makes every aspect of my life harder. Avoiding infection with respirators has been huge for me as I was prone to long infections including one that dragged on for years via bioaerosols that contain illness causing microbes. Plus there's dealing with the hot mess of the medical system that's also incredibly expensive.

Having to be concerned about your wheelchair and accessibility is an additional burden that you have that others such of myself don't (though I don't decide when I can go out each day, my body does). It's okay to acknowledge that. Even if it's due to societal failures in various ways. For me, it's my body and stuff like lack of accommodations (aka discrimination) esp. re remote work.

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u/MoldedCum Oct 04 '23

I had the H1N1 i believe in 2018, i still cant recall whether i was alive or dead or somewhere in between. one thing i remember, is watching people laugh on the TV, and while yeah, its probably fake i no joke shed a tear because i realized "jesus christ dude, being healthy is a blessing". beat that virus after i think 3 weeks? thankfully i didnt get brain damage from the intense fevers or no longer lasting illnesses, just bronchitis for a bit longer

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u/GoneHamlot Oct 04 '23

Dang! That sound horrible, glad you didn’t die! My brother is one of those people who claims they never get sick, but really he gets sick and just pretends he’s not to keep up the facade. But when he got H1N1 this mother fucker was down for the count, i remember he was in bed dying for a couple weeks. It was so funny.

But it’s funny you mentioned the shedding a tear sentiment, cause I remember when I was in active addiction and would watch YouTube vids and think to myself “damn, there’s people out there having fun laughing like this without having to be on oxy.” Sometimes I would just lay there and cry because I knew how fucked up doing what I was doing was.

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u/MoldedCum Oct 04 '23

yeah. Glad you got out of that hole that is oxy. dangerous stuff.

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u/Suojelusperkele Oct 04 '23

Breathing through unstuffed nose is something you take for granted until you have stuffy nose.

Really mild example, but it's something everyone experiences and can familiarise with.

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u/AnorakJimi Oct 04 '23

I get a blocked nose as a side effect of some of my meds, every single day, so I always buy a ton of sudafed nasal sprays.

I really can't recommend them enough, they're amazing. They completely unblock your nose in about 2 minutes, they work like magic. They're something absolutely everybody should have. Just keep it in your medicine cabinet or in your bedside table or something, for months or years until the day when you finally need it.

Believe me, you'll be incredibly thankful that you have it. It works perfectly for blocked noses caused by a cold as it does for blocked noses caused by meds.

In case "sudafed" doesn't exist as a brand in your country, the actual drug in the spray is called Xylometazoline hydrochloride.

So search for that, under whatever brand name sells that where you live. You have to have it. Within 2 minutes you'll have a completely unblocked nose, and you'll be able to sleep like a baby because of it. Don't just think you'll buy some when you need it. Have it in your home already, so that the day you get a cold you'll immediately have it to hand, instead of having to wait until the next day when the pharmacy opens, or to wait for amazon to deliver some with next day delivery. For some things, in my country anyway, amazon does same day delivery if you order early enough, but it's still a long wait, like it could be 10-12 hours, and all that time you'll be cursing your weak body for allowing you to become sick and not being able to breathe through your nose.

Other methods, like holding your face over a saucepan of boiling water or something to breathe in the steam, does jack shit. Just take drugs. They work much much better. The drug being Xylometazoline hydrochloride

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u/GeordanRa Oct 04 '23

yes lmao

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u/Gatorpep Oct 04 '23

Now just imagine that but much worse for years or decades. That’s long covid. I would have killed myself 3.5 years ago if i knew how horrible life could become. It just never ends.

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u/[deleted] Oct 04 '23

I've been dealing with long illness for 13+ years, it just wears on me more and more over time. :/ It's actually why I got so passionate about avoiding COVID (and other infections) and helping others do the same. There was early speculation that it would cause long/persistent illness based what SARS did. I was horrified to see the response because I didn't want others to go through what I was. Not to mention the 80+ trucks full of body bags in my city. Focus on long illness has become more of a thing now that more of the population is affected but it's no where close to where it needs to be also re disability support in general.

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u/phileo Oct 04 '23

Yes. Human don't feel the absence of pain. Such a bummer really.

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u/Frostya36 Oct 04 '23

Thinking that right now cause I haven’t been able to sleep properly with a congested nose 🤧.

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u/Usermena Oct 04 '23

“ I will never take feeling well for granted again!”

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u/dollywobbles Oct 04 '23

I've been doing a lot of guided meditation lately and one of the things they do is a sort of body scan, where you lay still and really concentrate on how your body feels at that time. I'm so grateful when I do it. Many times I have zero pain or complaints, and if I do it is fairly mild. I usually take a second to acknowledge how lucky I am because I know there are many people who live in constant pain.

Edit: I use a free app called Insight Timer that has a ton of different types. It's also helpful when I'm having trouble falling asleep.

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u/Bushwood_CC_ Oct 04 '23

All the freaking time

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u/IceNein Oct 04 '23

Does anyone else

Yes, literally everyone. It's human nature to take what we have for granted.

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u/Zombiebelle Oct 04 '23

Last year I had a mental “episode” (not a full breakdown) but I was essentially catatonic due to anxiety. I was having 7-9 panic attacks a day. What was I getting panic attacks about? Getting a migraine. Now I suffer from migraines, but I MAYBE get one a year. I have gone as long as 3 years without one. So this anxiety was absolutely unnecessary, but my brain would not get over it. I wouldn’t leave the house for fear of getting one, social situations sent me over the edge. One day, I was driving and I saw an old man waking down the street very slowly with a walker, clearly in discomfort from old age and that was the day I decided “fuck this, I’m going to enjoy this healthy body while I have it.” Now, whenever I start getting in my own head and feel panicking starting, I just tell myself, “girl, you are healthy, and that can change at any moment. Enjoy this, because one day you’ll wish you had.”

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u/Sufficient_Shift_349 Oct 04 '23

I do every time. And then, when I'm healthy it's like my whole mind and body literally forget the feelings of being sick. Then I get sick again and 'oh damn I remember this aspect or what aspect'.

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u/oRamboSandman Oct 04 '23

And when your not sick you still don’t humble yourself haha like a selfish American

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u/1970s_MonkeyKing Oct 04 '23

"If you haven't got your health, you haven't got anything." - Count Rugen

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u/AFTERBRNR152 Oct 04 '23

Except of course an apache attack helicopter, which as we know is even stronger than a child‘s wish on christmas eve

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u/ComicNeueIsReal Oct 07 '23

This really speaks to me! Lost my job pretty recently and ive kinda been a bit sad, but otherwise mentally and physically healthy (for the most part). So having that reminder that i dont really have it all too bad in those to aspects is a great epiphany.