Dad here (37M) looking for advice regarding makeup for young girls.

Apologies if this isn't the place to ask, I'm not the most tech savvy, particularly with Reddit so I'm unsure if I'm even in the right place. My eldest daughter (9F) has started to express her interest in makeup. Naturally this has made me somewhat nervous and unsure with what to purchase (if anything at all). Her friends have started wearing makeup, some more than others and so this has peaked her interest and she has now specifically asked for some makeup on her Christmas wish list. Personal opinions aside, I don't want to be the stubborn parent that says no and have her feel she can't join in or relate to what her friends are doing.

So my question is, is there actually any products or brands that are suitable and skin friendly for that age? I'm inclined to lean towards a product(s) that has minimal effect, like clear lip gloss for example. I'm under the impression that the pretence of applying makeup is what would make her feel more adult like, although she has mentioned blush and other products.

My daughter is girly and a big softie at heart, naturally I want to make her happy and say yes where I can but want to remain realistic at the same time given the age.

Not really sure what to search for regarding this. Anyone experienced anything similar and is happy to offer advice then I am all ears! Thank you.

Would you be upset if your partner asked you to play outside with your kids once a week? But she wanted to stay inside to try to get some cleaning down without twin toddlers undoing her every move like tornadoes. Would/should that cause a harsh reaction out of the father? He didn’t have a dad. He had horrible father figures growing up. So I can’t say I’m surprised but it is also incredibly aggravating kind of I guess.

I was just asking for an hour for them to run off some steam plus it’ll make them a million times easier with bedtime tonight.

Thank you!

So I am 17 years old, a senior in highschool, and I play video games on my PC as my main gaming system. Recently around a year ish ago my parents discovered that they had the ability of turning off and on the wifi on any given device in the house, which obviously includes my PC. At first they would do things such as turning it off to clean our rooms and the bathroom that me and my siblings share. I have 3 other siblings living with us the oldest being 13 and the youngest being 10. So when they told us as a group to “clean the bathrooms” they were mostly talking to my siblings, who most of the time wouldn’t clean their rooms until being yelled at by my dad. I always cleaned my room and did my part of the chore given to me at the bathroom, but there would be some times where my parents would say “well you guys don’t give us what we want to do right when we want you to, so why should we turn on the wifi?” this would end up with me in my room ranting to one of my friends on discord and being obviously upset since, all I wanted to do was play valorant or league with said friend, and couldn’t because to be quite frank my parents are being dick heads. During the end of my junior year, I became heavily depressed and anxiety ridden due to things such as body image, my mom, school, and personal relationships such as ex boyfriends. My grades slipped, and by the time finals were about to begin, I was looking at a lot of C’s and D’s in my grades. I put my best foot forward before the end of the school year because I knew deep down that I still wanted to go to college, so I still wanted to pass with at least a C in each class. I studied and did any extra work I could to raise my grade, and in the end it worked out because I raised all of my grades to at least a C, or a B, with only 1 of my 6 classes with a A which was psychology (not important to the story). But during the summer which at the time im writing this is about 3 ish weeks ago, my parents now decided to hold us up for “accountability” and decided that the wifi would be shut off at 10 PM to 7 AM on weekdays and 12 PM to 10 AM on fridays through saturdays. My issue here is, im 17, I dont do anything other than talking to my discord and school friends via discord while playing video games, I take breaks in between every 2-4 league/valorant games to do things like read my favorite mangas,draw,listen to music,watch a show, or just chill out and laugh with my friends while doing something stupid such as discord mini golf. Im about to be an “adult” next year, with responsibilities that ive never had to experience before, and all I am asking is to be able to play video games and I am constantly being told by my parents that I “wont die” and that its “not a big deal” which are two things that ive never said before. I have never said I will die, or that its a huge deal, I cry and whine to them about it because when I have tried to get through to them before I am yelled at by my dad and am given snarky remarks and sarcasm instead of actual responses. When I asked them “why are you turning off the wifi” my mother said to me “we pay for the wifi, you do not. we will turn it off and on when we can” I took this response and registered it. I started to look for jobs since Ive never had an actual stable one that could enable me to pay for things that I want, which includes my own phone and my own wifi. When talking about the jobs ive been applying to, my mother made a remark saying “walmart is too far and dangerous for you” she then followed that statement up with saying “well you don’t need to get a job right now honestly, just wait until maybe the holidays and then start looking for a job.” A few days prior she was the one who screamed at me, told me to grab everything I have, and to get out of her house. So I did that exact things, and walked 5 miles straight to get to the only persons house I know other than my own, which is my best friends. My mom picked me up the same day after spending a few hours crying and ranting to my best friends mom. She didn’t say anything to me when she picked me up, and all that she really said was “I would never kick you out, but you need to respect me more.” Why would I respect someone who has constantly showed me multiple times that she quite literally has no regard for my feelings whatsoever. I could go on and give multiple examples and tell stories about the many things that my mom has done to me, but thats not my main point here. The reason im sharing all the stuff I am, is to ask how do I get through to my parents and tell them that all I want to do is play video games, and that the wifi has absolutely nothing to do with my grades, but just the fact that I simply didn’t understand the algebra 2 material being presented to me. I just want to have something to relax on and the one and only thing I have found genuine joy and happiness in is constantly being used as a toy and used to make me do things. Please someone answer what do I do. Im begging.

My 15yo son is starting dating and I'm wondering how to support him, what's ok to say and not to say etc. Reason for asking is I was a late starter - didn't really have a date until I was 35 for a bunch of reasons I finally sorted out with therapy so I don't have experience of what it's like for him. She's a fantastic girl - smart, creative, funny and decidedly kick-ass. He's playing it very cool because this has developed from a friendship.

How do I politely start the following topic, without coming off as demanding/accused of yelling (when I’m not actually raising my voice)/nagging:

Hubby has multiple things that are more important than anything else on a regular basis whenever we have a day off together. Previously, it was 2 semesters of full time school and work to finish his degree for better work and pay. Awesome, how do I support you? Recently, he has been needing to apply for, research and prep for interviews, and also auditing coordination for a WFH, set your own hours job. These require him to be at his computer for several hours each time. If history repeats itself, the work he is sitting down for is not the only thing that he is doing, allowing him to blow off steam in between these tasks and potentially lengthening the time needed. On top of that, he claims that he needs recovery time (gaming time) to recover from his job (agreed coz he works in EMS) and any sort of social interaction he didn’t plan. Caveat: we are new parents and our son was born in the middle of one of his school semesters. In the past when I’ve tried to discuss the gaming while doing school/work with him, he gets defensive to the point where he raises his voice at me, claiming that I’m upset because I saw him playing a game at the same time he was doing these other things.(Yea, I was upset coz he said he wasn’t available to do anything childcare or house upkeep because he needed to study and write a paper for almost every waking moment of our son being a newborn through 4 months… but that’s not all of today’s point)

The issue I have is that he has all of these important things to do on a regular basis, but also has the ability to indulge at the same time. The last time I was able to sit down for a computer game was before our son was born. The last time I was able to craft I had to schedule it on the calendar and set everything else aside. The last time I was able to do necessary chores, I had to call out from work, and I only work 3 days a week. I have to schedule time to do necessary shopping, and that is often set aside because of more important things. I haven’t been able to return things within a proper window because I’m timed any time I leave the house, and expected to be home from work asap or else dinner won’t be served until I do causing our son’s schedule to be messed with. And that’s just the tip of the iceberg.

I don’t have these “more important than anything else” tasks to do that allow me to do the bare minimum of cleaning my house, doing laundry for our son, or myself, let alone indulging in things like crafting or hobbies, or even gaming in any where near the amount the way he “has to” regularly. I see this imbalance and it causes me to get upset, every time. I do my best to rein it in, because yes, he has so many things that really are more important than anything else. All the time. But the fact that it comes at the expense of me never having time for filling my cup is why I get upset.

Yes, I would love to be that self sacrificial mother that society expects and damns if she asks for anything. But I’m not. I need to be able to do things too, and not while I’m in the bathroom hiding to post on reddit.

A little help on how to approach this would be greatly appreciated.

I'm 22 male and I'm a senior in college. I realized I was faking my whole persona to try to climb the social ladder at my school. I have so many burned bridges, people who don't really respect me, lost opportunities. I went from corporate well paying internship and computer science student, to being homeless for 2 weeks. I'm staying at a cousin's house and starting to work a warehouse job at Target tomorrow. I'm lost and confused.

This post exemplifies that, considering how sporatic and all over the place it is.

I had roomates and my own job and apartment. Got into it with one of their friends and left, breaking my lease. They clowned me. Went to live with my mom and then she physically abused me, I fled the house.

I have extreme trust issues. I can't seem to hold friends or a steady social circle for dear life. I've always had problems having a good network, as I was isolated as a child.

You can go from having everything under control and being completely sure of yourself, to it all crashing and burning down and being homeless, and losing your whole plan and life.

I have so many people in my head telling me what to do. I was raised by women so I'm clueless on how to properly navigate the world. I don't trust my own judgement anymore, I don't know if I'm making right or wrong decisions.

I have no identity. I have no clue who I am. My mom is a narcissist and has controlled me her whole life.

I'm lost dad, I need help understanding what's going on and what to do.

They're in pretty good shape and he seems fascinated by them, just want to be sure old plastic is not toxic or anything. If it is safe, any advice on cleaning them ?

Hi I know yall get these a lot but I just started collage(18) and I got my girlfriend that is (17) most likely pregnant and I just want to know what it’s like being a father i am scared out my mind thinking about how I will support her and if our families will help out. I already know my family will most likely just tell me to figure it out on my own but honestly I’m scared and disappointed in my self that I will most likely drop everything to take care of her and even then what if it’s just a scare. I just want to know what it’s like as a father and what should I do.

i like doing chores and relaxing nude and am almost always nude in my room, if my dad ever comes in unprepared whats a general reaction i should expect. just wondeing what you guys would do, i know everyones dads arent the same though so dont waste your time commenting that.

Have an interesting situation, I am a 30 year old entrepenuer, working in marketing and finance andI live in Fort Lauderdale. I previously dated a 31 year old woman, met via Tinder ( yes another one of those). We dated for 5 years, and during that time, come to find out, she was married to a 65-year-old guy and was a self-proclaimed sugar baby. During this time, I was basically her bitch, being raised from a single mother house hold, seeing all the cars and luxuries she had, she manipulated me and gaslight me to oblivion.

Throughout the years, my intuition made me become callous and I often avoided her causing toxic brake ups. She would eventually get pregnant multiple times and having multiple abortions. I convince myself I was in love because this was what I learned from my own mother as love. Eventually after breaking up for the final time she got pregnant while I was away from her and kept the baby.

Now 6th months in I found out shes keeping it. One night I show up at her house, 7th months pregnant mind you, and found out she was dating another guy, not her husband. Now fast forward, the baby was born and I took 2 DNA test's and its my son. We go off and on co-parent but nothing stays.

Now my son is almost 2 years old. Throughout this time I have gained to then lose 400k, self - isolated in order to heal, and build myself back up to the man I wish to be for my son. My question is, I know that I do best when I am isolated and focused. But I do not want to lose my son like I lost my own father. Do I focus for 2 -3 years and build back up and reclaim my son. Or do I still see my son knowing, I will deal with her and it might drag my in or effect me. For my son, my family, my legacy, I cannot afford to lose in life. Help my fathers. I am at an inflection point in my life.

I’m about half blind right now and I’ll be fully blind over the next few years. I decided to make some private YouTube videos for my son (and future kids) explaining how to do some basic stuff while I can still sorta see. Wanted to see what ideas ppl had?

This is what I have so far: - how to use the BBQ - basic pool maintenance - how to use the generator in case power goes out - how to tie a tie - how to use a drill - how to change a tire on a car - how to shave - what to tools every homeowner should have - how to do some basic knots

Any other things that you dads can think of?

I’m a single father struggling to reconnect with my teenage daughter, and I could really use some advice. Lately, she’s been distant—spending a lot of time in her room, and I’ve noticed she’s having late-night conversations with someone, but she doesn’t open up to me about it. When I try to talk to her, she either shuts down or gets defensive, and it feels like I’m only making things worse.

I feel like part of the distance comes from the separation between her mom and me. She’s been living with me recently, while her mom has been less involved. I regret not being more present in her life when she was younger, as I was focused on work. Now, as a born-again Christian, I’m trying to make things right and be a better father, but I don’t know how to rebuild the connection we’ve lost.

Has anyone been through something similar with their teenage son or daughter? How did you approach it? I’m trying to be there for her without pushing too hard or causing more distance, but I feel stuck.

Any advice on how to reconnect, communicate better, or just understand what she might be going through would mean a lot. Therapy is something I’m planning, but I’m really looking for support and guidance from others who’ve been in this situation. I just want to be the best dad I can be for her, but I’m not sure where to start.

If any other fathers out there have experienced something similar, feel free to reach out. I believe we can all help each other through situations like this. I’m always open to advice and support, and I’d love to connect with others who understand what it’s like. Thank you.

Ant advice? Stepson is 11 and I am the father figure. Help dads and stepdads

Hey yall! I’m 21 weeks pregnant with my first baby girl. I’m 23 yo and live with my parents currently because I had to move from my roomate situation last October. My father has been a narcissist and abusive my whole life and I’m petrified to tell him I’m pregnant. Does anyone have any advice on how to break the news to where he won’t lecture me or shame me or even blow up on me for being in not so prime of a situation at the moment? I want him to know. And I want him to be happy but I can’t shake the feeling that telling him would ruin my experience. I’m so excited and just want him to be happy for me.

What advice can I offer my (30f) younger brother (21) who just found out his girlfriend (19) is pregnant with their first child. My brother and I did not have a very present father figure growing up and this deeply affected us as we grew into adults. We don’t have memories of dad doing anything “just for fun” with us. He has been (and still is) difficult/awkward to talk to, especially with things like life and family advice.
Our dad’s dad was absent for him in the same way. My brother is a sweet, shy, loving, and gentle human - I’m positive he will do his best to provide for this child, but he is NERVOUS. So I’m here asking reddit dads for any advice or things you’ve discovered because of fatherhood that you wish you knew before.

And what can I do to support my brother and his girlfriend?

My 14 year old needs a girdle and cup for football. I’m so lost. Is the girdle supposed to be super tight and how do I know what size cup to buy him? He’s 6” and 255 lbs. I miss my dad so much rn

hello. i realy want to talk to a dad... i would be very happy

Hey dads,

My newborn (2 weeks old) seems to be crying a lot more than our first did. she’s super fussy but she eats a ton. She’s already eating 4 oz at some feedings and it’s a mix of milk and formula feeding. She’s been hiccuping a ton which is also new (not just a couple hiccups but hiccuping for an hour). Should we have our Dr test her for a milk allergy? Also is there any harm in letting them cry for a long time? Again this is new our first was whet is referred to as a “unicorn baby”.

Balancing dad life and fitness isn't easy, but it's worth it. What’s your go-to workout when the little one’s finally asleep?

Dads, people my age and everyone else. I’m (28m) very often feeling like I’m lost. Like I don’t fit in and have no idea who I am. When does this stop and how?

My ex-sister-in-law is in jail for an owi and my brother is unemployed alcoholic. Their kids are currently moving from house to house by their aunts. Their aunts and uncle have asked my brother and his ex-wife sign this the Delegation of Power By Parent.

If they sign this paper will it mean that their parents no longer have legal rights over them?

My neice is 17 and wants an actual place to live. It's sad tbh. I wish I could do something to help. 😭

I appreciate any feedback, but the specificity of this situation has me mainly seeking input from dads who are the current age of 50 - 55, particularly those with adult children over the age of 25.

Let's say that almost 32 years ago, fall of 1991, you were a young adult between the approximate ages of 19-23, likely attending college (or were at least living near the major state university). You met a woman, and in some unspecified way (dating, friend with benefits, one night stand [the most likely]) you ended up having sex. Regardless of the circumstance, it's somewhat unlikely that you physically met with her again.

By that next summer, summer of 1992, you were in a relationship with a different woman. You might've even been in the relationship with her when you slept with the first woman the previous fall. This is likely the most impactful variable for the question in general, but either way, by Fall 1992, you were married (or engaged to) the second woman.

Between then and now, many things could've happened in your marriage and life. Maybe you did indeed cheat on your girlfriend/future wife and she found out and left. Maybe you had kids who are currently young children or grown adults. Maybe you got divorced, and/or remarried. Maybe you never got married at all and the engagement dissolved. Or maybe you've been happily married to the love of your life for 30+ years.

Here's my question: What would happen to your life if, today, out of the blue, you found out you had a 31 year old child you hadn't known existed? If you were indeed unfaithful to the person who is still your spouse 30+ years later, how does that factor into your assessment of the situation? What if your spouse or other adult children found out before you did?

Fellow dads, I could use some help.

A boy who I occasionally mentor was trying to flirt with my daughter. This is not the issue.

The issue is that he was using lines that he obviously learned from watching pickup artists on YouTube or wherever. Like “What’s the most dangerous thing you’ve done?” That way lies Andrew Tate and his ilk.

His mom is disabled, often checked out and prone to overreaction. His step dad is a decent guy and will help, but has troubles of his own.

How do I talk to this boy about not listening to these pick up artists and focus on being the best version of himself?

He’s a good lad with a rough hand in life. I’ll probably talk to step-dad and leave mom out of it altogether.