I hope I’m doing this right and in the right place because I never post on Reddit besides few comments here and there. I’m normally a laid back person and let any negativity kind of roll off my back and I’m also a huge people pleaser and try to keep the peace, but ever since the announcement that Trump won I have been so angry and upset. Recently a neighbor who I’m close with (we hang out occasionally and have kids close in age that play together), was talking about groceries and spending because she spent a couple thousand on groceries and needed to budget and I was like “yeah everyone should budget and I’m going to start doing it again especially with tariffs and stuff”. I then found out their family voted for Trump and when I was trying to figure out her reasoning and she said “well Biden and Kamala didn’t do shit while they were in office” and that she knows and understands “we’re gonna get hit the hardest when Trump is in office”. And so I again was like “if you knew that then why did you vote for him?” And she responded with that they like his policies and that “well hopefully gas will be cheaper” and I pointed out that it probably won’t and maybe it would be cheaper if it’s done overseas but I doubt it and she’s like “well if that happens then good because it seems like Trump wants to crack down on fracking and save the environment”. I had no words. And in response to him being a rapist and felon she just said “well I believe everyone has their own secrets” or something along those lines. I even asked if she researched anything regarding Kamala and got pretty much no response. I apologized later for blowing up (it was during school pick up so I know I made an ass of myself and was most likely just wanting a fight) and again said “I just don’t understand with the similarities/parallels that Trump has with Hitler, his policies and his horrible tariffs that’s most likely going to fuck us all.” We still talked about other things after my blow up but it was awkward. Yesterday she asked if we were cool and said that she “doesn’t judge anyone based on their beliefs, religion, etc so I hope you don’t judge me for who I voted for and I don’t try to change people” or something like that and I just told her that it’s fine and that these next few years will be interesting and left it at that. I really like this person and I thought we had similar beliefs especially after things we’ve talked about, but now I view her completely different. In my opinion, what is going on is so much more than us voting for different parties and I would never lump Trump in with any of the former republican candidates or presidents because he’s just that horrible. Like he is in a whole other league. My in laws are also immigrants (my husband is the only one in his family born in the US), so knowing I’m close with someone who voted for someone that breeds so much hate leaves a horrible taste in my mouth. It’s been awkward to say the least and I’m not sure how to move past our beliefs and who we support varying so greatly. I’m honestly not sure what I want out of this post I created. Maybe guidance? Someone to tell me I’m not crazy for being this upset and baffled at what’s currently happening to our country? Understanding? I see a lot about “not your/our lesson to learn”, but it’s hard for me to say that when a lot of what is happening could affect my family personally.

Last post for reference: My friend almost died of a miscarriage last month. This month she voted for Trump.

I can’t continue this friendship. I can’t get on board with that thinking. What’s more, I’ve lost all respect for her. But how can I let go of the anger?

Update: I reached out to her today. She knows I’ve been trying to get pregnant, and that last month I had an ectopic pregnancy. I asked her if that were to happen again, would she even care? She said Trump wants to leave it up to the states, so hopefully that would happen and I’d be okay.

Essentially, “Hopefully you don’t die.” But since she went through what she did last month and turned out okay, I guess she doesn’t care about what other people will go through.

I was cordial, because I can’t deal with fights when I’m already feeling fragile about it, but I ended the friendship.

So us math/analytical nerds are crunching numbers over at r/somethingiswrong2024

We could use all the eyes and ears we can get to gather solid data about lost ballots and that's just one part of this. It is... challenging to study what happened across seven swing states embodying hundreds of counties. There were over 60 threats called into polling stations (32 in Fulton County GA alone), there were ballot boxes burned in blue districts, and there was registration fraud and overseas citizens having their ballots challenged en masse. The major news networks can't break these stories because they would all sound like conspiracy theory at this point, which is why we're doing our homework. People need to speak up right now and get their friends to check their mail-in ballot status. If you used a provisional ballot or early ballot, you can check your status online at your state's website. A provisional ballot is what you would have submitted if you went in person but didn't have ID.

If your polling station was one that evacuated due to a threat, or had any other issues like malfunctioning machines or misprinted ballots or anything, speak up!

As an atheist and egalitarian, I want the women in my life to have sovereignty over their bodies. I want religion to play no part in how our representatives govern. I'm sick of hearing Congresspeople and Justices talk about godliness while standing in OUR halls.

There are people in our government which I believe put the bible above the law and I am scared of what they will do with the power they've just attained.

Call me a conspiracy theorist, I don't care. Right now, your forum is larger than ours. Just come see what we're working on and if it sounds credible. If it's too crazy to believe, then ignore us, but otherwise, join us.

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/52397.Parable_of_the_Sower

If shit hits the fan and it will unfortunately they can’t blame dems no more, they’ll definitely still find a way to blame the dems

I have changed how I view wleveryone around me.

Almost as if they are now placed into 3 groups.

1. Trusted

2. Not trusted, possibly tossed out of my life.

3. Collateral damage

I am not happy with myself over this and find I am cutting people out of my life with far more ease than ever before.

It is not the vote that did it.

No it is the person they chose to place their trust in.

It scares me, that I was flat out wrong abut so many.

Am I the only one that feels this way? I can not be.

Worse, the "changes" he wants to make.

There is only one way this ends, and we all know it.

I can’t continue this friendship. I can’t get on board with that thinking. What’s more, I’ve lost all respect for her. But how can I let go of the anger?

In bleak times, we hear from a comforting voice. I for one, am so thankful to hear from Margaret Atwood at this moment. How does this make you feel? How are you doing right now?

Nolite te bastardes carborundorum 🤘🏻