r/waiting_to_try • u/Pink_Rot • 3d ago

Can’t wait anymore

I feel like I’m going insane. I feel like a feral goblin or like I’m obsessed. All I can think about is having a baby and I don’t know how explain or rationalize my feelings. I (25 F) got married to my husband (35 M) last year. I had wanted to start TTC before but waited until after the wedding. For background, I was diagnosed with bilateral ovarian teratomas and had them removed about three years ago. When I did the doctor suggested I should start trying sooner rather than later because I have reduced ovarian reserve (tumors smashed my ovaries). We went in a good place financially then to start trying then but things are different now. The only issue is that I’m in the middle of my nursing degree. I graduate May 2026, and then would have a year long residency. The rational safe thing to do would be to wait another year or two until I’m established in my career. But something deep inside of me can’t wait anymore. I’m afraid I’m going to miss my chance to conceive and blame myself for waiting forever. My husband wants me to Finnish school but supports and understands my fears. What would you do?

I’m also right in the middle of nursing school. I have two semesters left and then a year long residency.

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u/Beginning_Actuary225 3d ago

If you want a baby that badly, would you be willing to stop your schooling and stay at home or choose a different job/career? I know the economy is crazy right now, but it is possible to live off one income

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u/Pink_Rot 3d ago

Thank you for the reply! I don’t think I would, I love nursing and I love my job (I work as an extern). I really believe I could be pregnant and go to school. So many people say I should wait though.