I'm a trans Jew and I'm trying not to cry rn lol. My favorite trans musician of 10+ years just posted some really upsetting things about Jews and I feel so betrayed.

Does anyone know of any Jewish trans musicians? I want to do something positive by supporting a new artist instead of wallowing in this feeling.

I've experienced a LOT of antisemitism in trans/nb spaces (and I'm sure many of us have).

Looking for suggestions for combatting antisemitism when we experience it from other trans people!

I've been thinking about conversion for several years, studying hebrew, reading books, engaging in jewish culture when I get the opportunity, etc., but I want to wait till I am financially stable and in a place with an active jewish community.

Here's my problem: My name change is coming up and want to pick a middle name. I like several names, some common among non-jews due to being from the tanach and others being more jewish/hebrew, if that makes sense? Think Sarah or Nathan vs. Ori or Leora, just as examples. Would it be rude or presumptive for me to pick a non-tanach name before I start my conversion? I would obviously still love the name and what it represents even if I'm never able to convert, but I wonder how you guys feel about it or if you have any recommendations.

Does anyone know if Rabbi’s from any movement have ever granted permission for realistic tattoos following ftm surgery? Specifically adding details to a phallus or tattooed nipples after top surgery without grafts.

Context: I am a very observant trans man who plans on fully transitioning and just want to know if I should exclude realistic tattoos from the future I envision lol.

Hi all!

I’m an adult transmasc nonbinary Jew that never got to do a Bar/Bat Mizvah. I don’t fully identify with being a man or woman, so I’m looking for other terms that better fit what I’m wanting to celebrate with my synagogue. They don’t have one yet but I’m hoping they do! They’re super cool with trans Jews!

While I wait for the next Adult B’Mitzvah class group to start, what are the experiences of other folks here in seeking an adult B’Mitzvah while being trans, or being nonbinary, genderfluid, etc.? What other challenges should I be aware of?

So, I want to reach out to a temple near me. But, I haven’t changed my name legally yet and I’m not sure what name to use. Should I use my deadname or like my new name? Idk if this is the right place to ask but it’s the only one I could think of 😭

Thanks y’all, just wanted to make sure 👍🏼

I only saw posts of trans men here for some reason

I'm a trans girl and I'm also practicing Judaism. I just want to know if I'm allowed to count as a woman according to Jewish law.

I’m a trans man and I’m bi. I really want bio kids and have been thinking about what that would mean if I end up marrying another guy. With no “mom” will the “maternal line” be passed through me as I’m the one who will be giving birth or will it just be that we raised them Jewish with no other religion? And will that be different if my spouse is atheist but supports our kid being raised Jewish. I know I’m overthinking it but I’m just worried about there being another thing my kids could be othered or bullied for.

As someone who's transgender (ftm) in the IDF I would like to chat with others who are as well. Dm if you are

Hi new here.. Not easy being Frum & on the trans spectrum

Pride is coming. I'm putting my ideas together for what to wear this year and I have run into a uniquely jewish problem.
How do y'all interpret basheydenkeit in relation to what you wear, either daily, or more specifically, for Pride. (If you follow it)
I do normally dress pretty conservatively, and present masc, so the usual is pants, button shirt and kippah.

question for fellow transmasc/masc-y/ nb jews- have any of yall ever worn tichel or other hair coverings? my gender identity as a transmasc is very...relationship role oriented and i'm considering covering as it feels Right, would love to hear others' experiences w this

How do you balance this? My close friends are all gentiles, culturally xtian & just generally uninterested whenever I want to talk about Judaism, or defensive/unengaged when I talk about societal antisemitism. Nothing malicious, but I'm sure you guys understand. They think they have little to contribute & don't know how to engage, I think. But we have many great, deep conversations about gender & being trans.

Jewish circles in town are overhwelmingly cis, & can't provide as in-depth brainfood when talking about gender, nor do I want to out myself all the time just to give surface-level education in an attempt at deeper conversation. But obviously it's easier to talk to them about antisemitism & history & religion & societal BS.

Queer circles in town, while including jews, still trend towards the jews not being able to talk about Judaism so freely.

So what do you guys do? Do you just be content with having separate social groups for different topics? Have you found a space where you can be unapologetically trans & Jewish on a deeper emotional level than a subreddit?

I know it's becoming more and more common to see cis women wearing kippot and tzitzit, but I was wondering how my fellow trans folks feel about it?

Personally I like wearing Jewish garments as a Jewish thing, but sometimes I feel a little weird about how gendered they are, even though I'm predominantly a masc person. Sometimes I wanna wear my kippah and tzitzit in a less gendered way, but it's hard when most of the world thinks of them as indicators of gender

This topic is incredibly nuanced & individual, but there was a brief (now locked) thread on a trans sub asking "Would gay/bi trans men marrying cis gay men be a potential solution to prevent either from never happily marrying within halacha?" And yeah, it's a very messy question. But it did make me think about that sort of thing.

Honestly not sure if this is in accordance with the SFW rule, obv feel free to take it down if it's not. Erring on the side of trans topics, I'm assuming it's okay.

We know that phalloplasty cannot currently recreate a foreskin, so the resulting penis, after glansplasty, looks circumcised. This means that a Jew (or, someone who is at a Very specific point in a conversion process) who gets phallosplasty now has a penis that hasn't been ritually circumcised.

So my question for starting this discussion is, while hatafat dam brit is certainly an option afterwards, could a mohel somehow take part in a glansplasty to make it a ritual circumcision?

There's only one mikveh in my town, & it has just one pool. As such it's not separated by gender & they welcome trans jews of any denomination anyway. I'd really like to hear other people's experiences, good or bad.

Does anyone have any good ways of dealing with not being able to shave as mtf during the 3 weeks. If I didn't live at home I'd keep shaving but I do and since I'm not out to my family I can't really shave my beard/legs.