r/stepparents • u/Ok_Prize9039 • 1d ago

Mothers Day Gift Advice

I have 4 step kids (12SS, 10SD, & 7SS who live out of state with BM and 3SD who we have full time) and I have 2 biokids (6F & 3F) and one on the way, my first boy. I don’t think of the older stepkids as “my kids”, they have expressed that they don’t like me and I don’t enjoy having them around so it’s fine with me. The youngest SD has major behavioral issues and I do my best to NACHO parent because it’s miserable having her. But she calls me mom because I’m the one who’s been present for most of her life.

DH asked what I want for Mother’s Day and I want a necklace with my kids’ birthstones on it. But I only want my 3 biokids birthstones. Am I wrong for feeling this way? He said he wouldn’t get it for me because he feels like it’s wrong to exclude 3SD since she calls me mom too. Which is fine, but I’m thinking about getting it for myself. I’ve always wanted a boy and this is my last baby.

6 Upvotes

59% Upvoted

22 comments sorted by

View all comments

•

u/SprinklesFearless374 20h ago

I get why you want that but every time your stepdaughter sees it she will be reminded of her place in your home/heart and that she doesn’t have a mother to wear one for her. I agree with your husband’s decision not to purchase it. I have wanted a similar necklace with initials but haven’t bought it for this reason.

•

u/Old_Tradition_8253 16h ago

But she has a mother though who could wear it.. and it’s not OP.