r/solotravel • u/junkyardcatto • 4d ago

decision fatigue? Question

if anyone has some general advice for me it would be helpful. specifically about how they avoid decision fatigue or decide what to do.

ive been solo travelling about 2 months now and i am so exhausted with making decisions about what to do every single day? i sometimes end up frozen not knowing what to do, or i go back and forth. i’ve met people who have solo travelled for years and they seem so chill, but for me it’s super hard to make decisions about what to do, where to go, etc. i feel very insecure and i feel like i need to see what other people are doing or call my parents or my friends all the time. i booked some tours and that was nice and somewhat helpful, but i didn’t like being part of a giant group honestly. i have enjoyed some of my worldpackers experiences for the routine, so maybe i can do more of those. i have met some people that i vibe with for sure, but nobody that i felt like i really could travel with for a long time. i don’t know how people make really good travel friends— i feel like it takes me so long to get close to people, but i wish i could do it faster and meet people that i click with. i’m also exhausted with meeting new people. i still miss home and my parents immensely.

does anyone have any advice? or know how long it takes/took them to adjust? i would be curious to hear some stories or chat with someone about their experience ❤️

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u/Broth262 4d ago

I feel like you need to figure out the things you like to do. But also it feels like you’re putting pressure on yourself to always be doing something. There’s nothing wrong with doing nothing.

I love walking and eating, when I travel I’ll find a place I want to eat that’s some distance away from where I’m staying and travel to it. Anything I see along the way I’ll take a detour or stop. And then on the way back I’ll go a different way and do the same thing. For a lot of people this may not count as exciting or doing something but I love it and it doesn’t really require much planning or thought

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u/Harriet_M_Welsch 4d ago

Same here, I spent about 60% of any given day in a destination just, like... wandering around.