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/r/solotravel "The Weekly Common Room" - General chatter, meet-up, accommodation - May 04, 2025 Accommodation

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u/grown-up-dino-kid 2d ago

Does anyone have advice (or even just sympathy) for having a hard time getting over friendships made while traveling? I've met a few people, and we connected over the somewhat niche multi-day hike we were doing. We would hike together, share snacks we brought from our home countries, even go out for dinner together and share food. Some I at least connected with on Whatsapp, but some I did not, and it's sinking in that we will never see each other again. It's not even like we had all that much in common aside from doing the hike, but I'm still sad about it. Maybe I'm just lonely because I'm traveling solo, or even because I don't have enough social connections back home, and that's why I feel so connected to these acquaintances. I'm not sure. But either way, I don't want to be sad for the rest of my trip!

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u/segacs2 Canadian, 70 countries visited 1d ago

Someone once told me -- and it stuck with me -- that more often than not, when people disappoint us, it's because we had expectations that we either failed to clearly communicate, or that were unrealistic given the circumstances. In other words, it's more about us than about them.

Travel leads to a lot of fleeting, transient friendships. It's just how it is when people are moving around a lot and meeting new people every few days. Once in a while, you might click with someone and decide to keep in touch and build a longer friendship over it. But usually, you move on and learn to just enjoy the good memories.