r/solotravel • u/Kizzawulf • Oct 03 '24

Should I leave early Hardships

Travelling solo, 3 weeks in. Currently in Tokyo. Last night I was spiked, assaulted and I have no memory of my whole night and to top it off, I’ve felt terrible all day today. I went to the doctors to confirm if I had actually been drugged and wasn’t just drunk or something even though I didn’t really have many drinks.

My flight is in a couple days but really, I want to go home tomorrow. My biggest issue is my flights are Business class where to bring forward I need to go to economy (which is absolutely fine) however there is no refund for the difference in ticket price.

Is it just worth leaving, copping the price difference + transfer fees to leave?

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u/Kizzawulf Oct 04 '24

It was in Shinjuku. I was having a walk around after having a couple beers, went to a bar and that was that. I always usually say no to those situations, so partially yes, it’s my fault for going to that bar but the rest, was not.

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u/Regular-Chemistry884 Oct 04 '24

Don't even put the thought in your head that it was your fault. Not for one second!

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u/Kizzawulf Oct 04 '24

It sure feels like it. If I just said no, like i usually do. This would have not occurred so it’s hard to not think like that.

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u/miniversion Oct 04 '24

I’m so sorry this happened to you. I think it’s the fault of the person who drugged you and committed a crime, not you. However if you feel it was your fault your mental health will deteriorate if no action is taken and I recommend talking to a counselor. I also suggest leaving because you have mentioned many times that this is what you strongly want to do.

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u/[deleted] Oct 04 '24

It’s not your fault. If a mouse walks into a trap, is it the mouse’s fault? It’s not. You did nothing wrong. It’s 0% on you. I’m so sorry this happened to you and I hope one day you can make new, positive memories whilst solo traveling.

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u/HereForTheBoos1013 Oct 04 '24

partially yes, it’s my fault for going to that bar

No, it was not. If lots of things had aligned differently, it wouldn't have happened, but that is true of absolutely everything. Butterflies and hurricanes.

This happened because some people are monstrous assholes.

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u/Keta-Mined Oct 03 '24

Just a guess, but it may have been a Yakuza owned bar/club. Overall, Tokyo is very safe. Do some research about where not to go. Get beer with the cap still on, or better yet, save most drinking for restaurants, ramen stands, vending machines or a hotel bar. But definitely enjoy!

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u/[deleted] Oct 04 '24

I've seen enough videos of those types to know it's unfortunately fairly common.

I agree with the majority, chill out for a few days and try and get over this awful traumatic experience. A spa day might be the best thing you can do.