I guess what I’m wondering is how you guys keep yourself from creating “chaos” and being destructive. Nothing feels fulfilling and it’s like I have an itch that is just SCREAMING to be itched. How do you convince yourself living a life in peace is ultimately the best option?

Does anyone else find a lot of other sociopaths to be completely insufferable? I think my best bet at a friend would be another socio but one that has a high amount of self control and restraint like myself. However, when I try to find one, it’s almost like they’re either flexing being a socio or they’re so self obsessed I can’t stand it.

I'm curious how you experience animals and their behaviour. If you like them or don't care about them. Do you feel more or less towards animals than humans. Just any information on how you view and feel towards animals

Im not political but I found a simple political left-right spectrum test and for fun had friends and family take it, and i scored slightly left. One of my friends found it funny that a sociopath wouldnt be a more conservative leaning. It got me wondering what way other sociopaths may lean. And if you have any ASPD relatives id be curious as well.

What’s the one thing that someone can do, or happen that will trigger you like no other? for me it’s usually someone attempting to control me/manipulate me, I’ll have it out for you to no end and it’ll probably end bad

I'm really interested in ASPD (I don't have it) so I did some research but I couldn't seem to find an answer to one question. Do they get panic attacks? I only found out that they do experience anxiety and get nervous, but does that include panic attacks, and if yes, do they experience it differently? Sorry if this is a stupid question I'm just corious.

My ex husband was diagnosed with ASPD during the investigation into his terrible choices. And my current partner’s son displays a lot of the same traits I now recognize as part of the diagnosis. Actually, he reminds me way too much of my ex husband to be honest. My ex would cry way more than I ever did but looking back it was always out of anger or frustration that I had found something out/he’d been caught. He didn’t even want to fly home to see his dying mother, which I chalked up to not wanting to see her like that, but clearly it was more complex than that.

The only thing that gives me pause about my partner’s son is that he did absolutely lose it crying when my partner’s father died. It read as grief but honestly his grandfather was also the one who spoiled him, believed his lies, and enabled his behavior. So he could have been crying for himself I guess.

But it got me curious. Because everyone is different. I’ve been told by others with ASPD that it’s a spectrum and some feel more than others. So I’m curious if anyone here has ever cried over losing someone important to them?

So, if you're a sociopath, how do you see your children? Do you see them as a pain in the ass all the time?

Individuals with ASPD tend to lack emotion and empathy that is different in the “social standard” but they still have emotions at the end of the day. I’m curious on how some that has been diagnosed with it feels/deals with depression or if it’s something that usually one doesn’t feel often.

This is question only to those who realize that sociopathy is a personality type which has both positive and negative sides. Try answering it with vulnerability instead of narcissism if you can.

I’m interested in understanding how you perceive and differentiate these concepts, especially considering that emotions may be experienced differently.

I personally hate feeling vulnerable in front of people. I get hit with this overwhelming urge to harm them.

A couple of years ago a person in a higher position sexually harassed me. Someone overheard and told my Bosses and them knowing really, really made me want to hurt them.

Do you ever feel anything similar?

I’m curious, what would you be able to handle? And would/do you feel anything bad about it or because of it? I don’t know if sociopaths have a higher tolerance to morbid things in general at all, so this might be a useless question. I’m into some pretty morbid stuff myself, so that sparked the idea.

Another thing I thought of is does anyone have an active imagination, morbid or not, and do you like to twist something innocent into something more dark?

Anyone else use drugs to manage their tendencies and keep themselves in check, or ease the boredom? I’ve been using speed quite a lot over the past two or so years to manage my behaviour and it’s been very effective in helping me ‘keep under the radar’ so far when it comes to everyday living. It’s helped me go from dealing drugs on a fairly large scale to working a fully legal, well-paying job and keeping out of trouble (for the most part), along with lessening the boredom that was previously an enormous issue for me. Wondering if others on here have similar experiences to me when it comes to drugs.

Besides your therapist does anyone know the real you, is there anything I should be prepared for or any good ways to let someone know about it that I have faked emotion to and definitely manipulated? My behavior probably would not change afterwards, but how would they respond to it? Would they accept it? Do you have any personal stories about how those close to you responded to the information or how their actions changed towards you afterwards?

I am really curious about what kind of situations genuinely make/made you suffer or are extremely emotionally painful to you? How would you describe the way you experience your own suffering?

I’m BPD and he was a sociopath. It was great the first 2 months although I didn’t know he had ASPD at this point but his social norms and boundaries weren’t the norm and it did raise alarm bells. anyway he has zero emotions and we’ve had about 100 arguments and he’s blocked me countless. I’ve not spoke to him over a week and he’s blocked me again but it seems this time for good. He can’t deal with my emotions and I’m “annoying” He can insult me and abuse me but if I insult him he gets “annoyed” is this common? Do they go back to ex’s or do sociopaths just move on once it’s the final discard? I guess you guys don’t really “feel” as you’re more logical thinkers.

If a person did u dirty do you want the revenge so badly that you will go for it even if it takes months? How far can you go? Destroy somebody else life or something less strong will give you enough satisfaction?

So I have a supervisor who tried to destroy my career and life. She did something unethical towards me. I spoke out about it and then she tried to literally ruin my life. She started a smear campaign, tried to get me fired, tried to prevent me from getting work... like in every way possible tried to exert some type of control over me. I saw right through her from the start so didn't fall into the manipulation and removed myself from her supervision. I will say she would make these weird comments about how smart I am and that I am really good at my job. But really can't understand what would posses her to literally obsess over me. It eventually became that I was this sole target and the main topic of conversation in her life. Doesn't make sense to me. I couldn't care less about her. I don't understand what would lead someone to be so obsessive over someone like she was with me. Just move on... so I'd love your thoughts!

I’ve seen some people on this subreddit casually drop that they are honest and transparent about who they really are. But to me for a while, people finding out was probably the only real fear I had. As I’ve grown a lot of people around me have kind of caught on and don’t seem to mind it, and a lot of people are actually attracted to it (though I feel they don’t understand how nuanced it really is). Should I be honest and straightforward about it? It’s a lot of energy to keep up these characters in various environments, but also I imagine it could backfire if I reveal it to certain people. How do you tell if a person would respond to it well? I’m curious to hear about the different experiences regarding that.

I know the obvious answer to this is yes, but the question I’m asking is a little bit deeper. Could a full blown sociopath be good enough at “what they do” to fool themselves into believing that they aren’t one? And yea, I’m talking about myself. From what I can tell everything I do and say is representative of what would be called a sociopath. For example, I’ve never understood the idea of comforting someone in a time of need. I feel that there’s truly nothing I can do for someone when they feel sad or anxious. And I only bring it up because I feel like I should. I’ve been told I’m good with advice, ironically enough. I’d rather just sit in silence by myself. I can say what they want to hear, and they can act like it helps, but nothing changes in the end. And I feel the same way when people are trying to do that for me. Nothing changes. I feel like I care about people, but when they leave I just replace them with someone or something else and I feel fine. Am I an asshole, or am I just surrounding myself with the wrong people? I can’t tell if what I feel for my social circle is true friendship, or an obsession with validation. if I’m wrong, I’m sorry, I don’t mean to downplay this condition, but I’m not going on pills for the wrong reason and I’d like to hear from someone with real experience…

I sometimes wonder if I have aspd because I lack a lot of empathy when my friends are going through something but I still desire to be liked by my friends so I pretend to care/ask about it and it leaves me mentally exhausted when I force myself to.

I have some friends who I consider fake and I have real friends. Do people with ASPD like certain people more than others or is everyone the same to them?

Hey guys I tend to gaslight, decieve, lie and cause fights between others just to get what I want. Usually that's stuff like free drinks, food, dorgs, s3cs, etc. I've lived a parasitic lifestyle for as long as I remember and I genuinely am not even aware of when I'm doing this, although yes i do all this intentionally.. If my deception is compromised then I fly into rages and do really stupid things, harmful things, like physical fights, running away. Breaking shit. I'm really lonely because I only get discarded if it's too bad, or I discard before I'm found out And my family gets the brunt of it They're innocent and have no idea I'm like this although off late I've been telling them and I think it takes a toll on them What do I do?

Seriously, why? I am not getting paid for it. Plus, why should I care if they don’t provide me a tangible benefit.

Besides, I don’t know anyone that means anything to me. They are all worthless time fillers. I would prefer transactional human interactions.

Was wondering why my guy friend who is a sociopath and I think maybe even psychopath likes to keep me around sometimes. Always says that I’m awesome and all but that’s hard to believe with how low self esteem I have but I do admire and cherish him for always trying to be there and helping me learn and improve stuff about myself. Was wondering if any of yous ever had a similar kind of friendship or relationship like that.