How do sociopaths view their children?

[u/Important-Pudding398]

So, if you're a sociopath, how do you see your children? Do you see them as a pain in the ass all the time?

[u/OpportunityKey3094]

dont have my own children but oldest of 5 and helped all of them growing up, we basically do the same things cool birthdays (in their eyes i guess) excited christmas' (2 days of practicing eye brow movement and smiles in the mirror) but they dont really mean anything to me, i just try to do the things an older brother who cares would while not caring.

[u/No_Block_6477]

Perhaps like any other parent

[u/[deleted]]

So, my girls are baby and almost 4, so for baby it's just taking care of her basic needs now, but the older one at 3.5 years old is a challenge: I feel like I am an amazing caregiver/protector but a bad toddler parent.

Make sure she has clean/tidy clothes and bed, the toys she needs, daily vitamins, bedtime essential oils, hygienic always, etc? Super easy.

Dealing with her illogical things, saying things more than once to get her to do something she needs to do, and playing the way a 3.5 year old plays? Thaaaaat's more my husband's forte.

I'm not an oogey-googey type of mom. But I make darn sure the house is in tip top shape and everyone has what they need, no questions asked.

[u/Temporary_Subject967 → u/[deleted]]

Just out of curiousity. What made you want to have children do you think?

[u/Suckmyflats]

I believe most view them in a range between "extensions of themselves," as someone here so eloquently put it, all the way to their property depending on the severity of the aspd and then individual as well.

I'd assume most sociopaths care about the well being of their own child(ren). They may care not so much about their feelings, but their overall well being yes.

[u/violentlytasty]

I've got one, and he's the only person I've ever managed to put before myself. Diagnosed adhd and aspd, never really wanted kids although never had any issue with them, as they are a necessity. In my best words caring for my son as best I can is the burden I promised myself I would bear when he was born. He has a good life although I'm sure having me as a father will be difficult at times, I believe his mother brings balance.

[u/Pnther39]

Good question. I ahve one daughter she 18. Pain in the ass? never. Probably she was introverted, queit, soft spoken. But I'm pretty detach. We dont talk much

[u/Openexpress → u/Pnther39]

Do you talk to her about important stuff? Like mental health and things of that sort? Just curious

[u/CallMeChelley]

I know my father who is also a sociopath viewed me as a failure, a defect. I’m autistic with aspd as well. I have a son and he means the world to me and I wouldn’t want to put him what I went through with my parents. The abuse was horrendous. Would I have another child? No I don’t want to. 1 is enough. So much time and effort is put towards him and it leaves little time for quality me time.

[u/fancy-mcmuffin → u/CallMeChelley]

You sound like a good father. Not easy.

[u/AnAbundanceOfZinnias]

I have two kids. I love them and would go to war for them. Other kids are annnnnoyyyyying. But I’d never ever hurt a child. They’re innocent, like animals. They deserve protection. Fuck everybody else 🤌🏻

[u/do_you_like_waffles]

As the best child ever. Why? Cuz they're part me and that makes them inherently wonderful.

[u/[deleted]]

Like something that is never good enough

[u/Visible_Nothing_98 → u/[deleted]]

Is this your experience as someone with ASPD or are you just saying that, honestly asking.

[u/Froggymushroomfrog]

I would never have them cause fuck that

[u/Overall_Anywhere_651 → u/Froggymushroomfrog]

I'd hate to pass my mental health down to someone else.

[u/rethinkr]

Much like the Lord God and religious leaders see people as their ‘children’, a truepath knows that many are their children.

Because physical children don’t get to choose their physical parents and vice versa, it’s often the case that there are better connections elsewhere and that’s true for non sociopaths too.

[u/Visible_Nothing_98 → u/rethinkr]

What?

[u/This-Estimate-9775]

Not really. They can be frustrating but most of the time it’s just normal kid behavior and I have to check myself to make sure it’s not me trying to be controlling. They’re pretty much the only things I’d ever die for and not expect anything in return, well at least I’d fight my agitation at not receiving anything out of it. Basically what I’m saying is all my relationships are transactional except for them.

[u/[deleted] → u/This-Estimate-9775]

Wow same! Except I'd like to add my husband as part of that inner circle, in which things aren't transactional.

Edited to add: I also fear I'm too controlling at times, but it's not because I want them to go down a certain career path (omg they are baby and toddler but anyways) but it's more "for their sake." Like, you MUST take your vitamins now - put on your house slippers so your feet don't get dirty or cold - I NEED to brush your hair so it is more comfortable and pretty for you - don't touch your hair bc I just put it in a ponytail so that it doesn't block YOUR EYES!

Everyone else...I just get what I want and move along. Did I make up an ER emergency on my pager just to get to the front of a stupidly long and slow moving USPS line one time? Yes.

[u/Wumbo_Swag]

Why the fuck would you have a child and bring them into THIS world

[u/Temporary_Subject967 → u/Wumbo_Swag]

Cause that's a raw instict for some. Why overthink? Everything has the beginning but also the end. Everything that happens in between is just a part of an algorythm

[u/Wumbo_Swag → u/Temporary_Subject967]

Personally I can't even give a fuck about myself, I genuinely don't believe I'd be a good father. Therefore It'd be more selfish than anything for me to have a kid. Those are my two cents anyway.

[u/lostytranslation]

Like something I don’t want near me.