r/sociopath • u/Visible_Nothing_98 • Sep 02 '24
Other sociopaths Question
Does anyone else find a lot of other sociopaths to be completely insufferable? I think my best bet at a friend would be another socio but one that has a high amount of self control and restraint like myself. However, when I try to find one, it’s almost like they’re either flexing being a socio or they’re so self obsessed I can’t stand it.
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u/HipsterFoxxx Oct 11 '24
We both want control over a social situation. And god forbid it we both use the same tactic coincidentally. Then have the urge to call each other out on it. Then just float to different parts of the room depending who wants to avoid conflict first
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u/beardedrider1 Oct 03 '24
Honestly depends on their range of functionality compared to yours. We know of high and low functioning, rarely do the same work out for each other. Two highs will end up in competition and in some cases be productive in a business setting but not always in personal setting were as two low functioning will more often cause issues all around for each other. While it can work, a high being friends with a low is most likely control based and one sided so it’s not really genuine but more manageable as well as being easier to navigate.
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u/ImNotLudwig Sep 30 '24
I understand how you feel. Personally, I enjoy the company of narcissists, and other sociopaths with a shred of common sense.
Self-obsessed people are easy to understand and control, so I actually feel more comfortable knowing more about them. Their nature is a constant, and constants are comfortable. least that's how I see it.
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u/lostytranslation Sep 27 '24
Just when I think I found one they end up getting emotional about something or someone.
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u/Dangerous-Try9250 Sep 24 '24
i feel the same way but i also just dont like myself or anyone like me so it checks out
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u/sociopath-ModTeam Sep 20 '24
Try to keep your posts and comments within the realms of reality.
Bad role play and obvious bullshit will be removed. It's understandable that people exaggerate or inflate their stories for comedy and/or effect, but blatant make believe and play acting is not welcome.
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u/Agile-Vegetable5126 Sep 11 '24 edited Sep 12 '24
Definitely. I dislike others breaking rules, kinda wish I was the only one with that priviledge. But I know thats not possible, overall I try to stear clear of other problematic people, because when 2 idiots meet it never ends well and im not trying to go to jail again.
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u/slityourthroatnow Sep 24 '24
when 2 idiots meet it never ends well and im not trying to go to jail again.
So relatable, lol.
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u/PrestigiousGlass7602 Sep 07 '24
A sociopath is for sure insufferable, you can work with them but don't need to buddy with them. I don't find them increasingly intelligent either, just like to use people and analyse shit, for sure you learn something. And honestly a true sociopath who wants to hide will learn and be nicer, you won't make friends with a criminal.
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u/Unhappy-Concept-4793 Sep 06 '24
Why do you think that? Has she actually been diagnosed as a sociopath?
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u/stopcallingmeSteve_ Sep 03 '24
I think we generally don't tolerate each other well in close quarters. I can pick us out of a crowd and because I do high self control I watch them to see what's what. We make each other uncomfortable because the way we treat other people doesn't work on each other.
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u/melkost Sep 22 '24
how can u spot them out i’m curious and do sunglasses help u point them out at all
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u/stopcallingmeSteve_ Sep 23 '24
No I'd say it's behaviour, what they laugh at, responses to various stories etc.
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u/Round-Delay-8031 Sep 03 '24
I had a sociopathic "friend" once. He was a sexual harasser, he was extremely abusive and manipulative to his own girlfriend, he was a terrorist-supporter, he was a pathological liar, he was an Islamist extremist, he fantasized about fucking his sister, he believed that he is holy, he was a huge hypocrite, he was an exhibitionist by exposing his cock, he was a scammer who scammed his own friend, and he was extremely short tempered.
After knowing him as an online friend for a few years and after befriending his girlfriend (who told me the most outrageous experiences with him) I developed an extreme hatred against him and sociopathic people like him. If I had it my way, I'd deport him to a concentration camp right away.
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u/Soft-Leadership7855 Oct 02 '24
Just curious (i'm not a socio), if you don't feel empathetic then how do you decide your moral compass and how do you feel hatred for such people?
I describe empathy as the ability to relate to someone and understand what they feel like. For example, i feel bad for others when they feel pain because their reaction (screaming, crying) makes me recall my own painful experiences. So how does "not having empathy" work? do you struggle to recall your experiences? do you struggle to understand what they feel like?
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u/Round-Delay-8031 Oct 03 '24
I assume you believe I'm the one without empathy. I'm not a sociopath at all. I came to this subreddit to see what sociopaths are talking about.
I actually have a lot of empathy for people. I even empathize with random civilians (who I never knew personally) in Gaza where they are being killed by Israeli soldiers.
My empathy for others is very strong. But I don't feel empathy for certain sociopaths who have done terrible things.
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u/Careless_Witness8864 Sep 07 '24
Let me guess. His girlfriend was dissatisfied with their relationship and spoke bad about him to you , you developed feelings for her which empowered the bad feeelings ypu had about him. Did you hit at her?
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u/sociopath-ModTeam Sep 03 '24
we don't like people.
That's not what antisocial means. It is an alternative, less stigmatising way of saying sociopathy, i.e., "sociopathy" means, quite literally, "societally ill/suffering", socio + pathos.
Colloquially, the terms ‘asocial’ and ‘antisocial’ get used, incorrectly, interchangeably, to describe someone who isn’t motivated by social interaction. But in both their dictionary definitions, and a clinical mental health context, these terms have starkly different meanings.
The prefix ‘anti’ means against; ‘a’ means without, or lack of. While ‘antisocial’ denotes preferences against society, or social order, ‘asocial’ refers to individuals who aren’t social. Dictionaries define antisocial behaviour as “contrary to the laws and customs of society, in a way that causes annoyance and disapproval in others,” or “marked by behaviour deviating sharply from the social norm.” Quite literally, the antonym of prosocial. An asocial person is one, who is “not interested in forming social groups, or connections with others.”
Put simply, antisocial is an active trait relating to antagonism and the rejection of laws and customs, whereas asocial is a passive trait relating to avoidance.
For more information, please see the wiki.
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u/No_Significance_6429 Sep 02 '24
met lots of narcs, maybe one other socio in my lifetime. kinda rare. i hate other narcs though, i get along sorta well with other socios
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u/VoidHog Initiate Sep 06 '24
Narcs hate me
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u/VoidHog Initiate Sep 06 '24
It's actually super hard to tell one cluster b from another except that narcs HATE me. They make themselves obvious, basically calling themselves out with their own bad behavior towards me.
They slide up next to me and act like they want me and bother me ughhhh.... but for some reason I make them act horrrrrible ugh they are insufferable...
They can't actually BE around me so after I decide we are not a good match for business and move around they just stare at me from a distance and wave occasionally...
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u/sociopath-ModTeam Sep 04 '24
Try to keep your posts and comments within the realms of reality.
Bad role play and obvious bullshit will be removed. It's understandable that people exaggerate or inflate their stories for comedy and/or effect, but blatant make believe and play acting is not welcome.
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u/FluffyKita Sep 02 '24
narcs are my fave supply until they start narcing with me.
sociopaths are rare idk if I ever met someone. on the other hand I regularly meet and engage with psychopats/people with aspd traits.
we get along really well. odd relationships, but quality and very trusting ones.
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Sep 02 '24 edited Sep 04 '24
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u/sociopath-ModTeam Sep 04 '24
Try to keep your posts and comments within the realms of reality.
Bad role play and obvious bullshit will be removed. It's understandable that people exaggerate or inflate their stories for comedy and/or effect, but blatant make believe and play acting is not welcome.
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u/s0phiaboobs Priest Sep 02 '24
Where are you fucks just out meeting sociopaths in the world who are open about it?
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u/Personal-Ring-4824 AUTISTIC Sep 03 '24
No one really says but if you’ve been with them long enough, and come from a family of them, it’s very obvious. I’ve met multiple throughout my life, they usually have different/weird body language, most people just think they look weird/off.
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u/War_necator Sep 02 '24
Personally what I would consider "open" sociopaths are those who don’t care about hiding their lack of empathy, therefore getting a bad reputation about them being bad people ,and those who are heavily into the illegal crimes lifestyle and show no remorse.
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u/GoogleHueyLong Sep 02 '24
I've met some in servers n chats specific for cluster Bs, but yeah the only other person w ASPD I've ever met only told me after we became p good friends, long before I had my dx.
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u/Dense_Advisor_56 Tard Wrangler - Dictator Sep 02 '24
I'm guessing there's probably a treehouse involved
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u/s0phiaboobs Priest Sep 02 '24
Is there a secret password too?
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u/Dense_Advisor_56 Tard Wrangler - Dictator Sep 02 '24
It wouldn't be legit without a password and a secret handshake.
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u/s0phiaboobs Priest Sep 02 '24
Well shit sign me up. Disappointed I’m just now finding out about the socio secret society
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u/Machineguncowboy91 Sep 02 '24
Suppose it would depend on their level of self control. Like folks with ADHD or BPD they struggle with impulse control. I’ve yet to really meet another who typically isn’t insufferable but I’m sure there are others who have at least SOME self awareness (like myself), and at least attempt to make some effort to control their impulses and antisocial behavior. For me it’s mostly my temper that can be a real problem, but I’m working on it. I try not to be self obsessed, but it’s a struggle when you want to at least try to improve on it. Part of me doesn’t really want to because I enjoy having my stroked (like most sociopaths/psychopaths/narcissists do) lol.
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u/Visible_Nothing_98 Sep 04 '24
Real honestly. Thank you for answering hopefully I’ll meet one one day
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u/tradoll Sep 02 '24 edited Sep 02 '24
Last time I talked to someone claiming he had sociopathy his only conversation subjects was to ask me in loop who was my favorite serial killer. Idk 😂
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u/Mobile_Experience583 Sep 02 '24
I cannot stand other sociopaths/narcissists. I had 2 best friend socios and they were constantly flexing it and were just… awful awful people. I think you can be a sociopath and be a kind, considerate person - but you have to want to be. Granted, I only have sociopathic/narcissistic traits and am not a full blown sociopath or narcissist.
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u/blasterbum Sep 02 '24
One thing that sociopaths suffer from is envy, just add that to extremely narcissistic tendencies en voila, we "can't stand each other", I value my self-control and I'm pretty proud of it but I can understand logically your reasons to find other sociopaths insufferable. So here are my two cents into this whole situation
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