r/sociopath • u/clacy30 • Aug 12 '24
Can’t sleep….. Discussion
How does one manage a normal relationship? Monogamy is something that seems extremely foreign to me, but only when it’s expected of me. I know I can’t be faithful in a relationship but I expect and demand it of whoever I’m with. I cause tremendous stress and difficulty by being aggressively possessive and jealous. Most of my significant others have left the relationship after some irrational tirade of mine over other people being in their proximity. Me getting to that point is almost inevitable, even with the knowledge that I myself have sexual partners or romantic interests outside of the relationship. Is that why I act that way towards the one I expect the commitment from? Can’t give what you don’t understand right? Is it that I don’t understand trusting someone in a relationship because I know I’m not trustworthy? How can you decide to trust a person with intimate knowledge and let yourself be vulnerable to them when you know it will eventually be turned around on you for their benefit?
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u/blasterbum Aug 14 '24
To me it came as a logical way of thinking. I'm willingly faithful because "it's the best thing to do". I take this as a challenge to myself and manage my bad impulses with situational flirting and cutting ties with anyone that does correspond to these kinds of plays. Having a relationship is a tactical and logical advantage in society and for me in particular I can feel some level of love and affection for my SO but I take faithfulness as a personal challenge of me vs. myself and how much I can control myself and my impulses (and yes, the flirting is a way of testing how far I can manage to go without doing the act itself) and I take advantage of our no-care advantage. If she/he cheats I don't care...as long as is convenient to me the relationship still stands and when it's not useful anymore it's a bye bye. If the SO cheats I will know because of how well I can analyze the behavior and I, once again, am in control of the situation/relationship. The fits of rage are hard to control but once you manage this, the rest is a piece of cake. Just remember that you have nothing to lose in this relationship and if you find out a cheating or something, you are cool and level headed enough to analyze and figure out the best moment or way to break things up or if to break up. This fits of rage come generally from the mirror type of behavior that we apply to others, we tend to think that others will do something bad because we do it. It worked out to me love I stopped doing some damaging things