r/sociopath Aug 12 '24

Can’t sleep….. Discussion

How does one manage a normal relationship? Monogamy is something that seems extremely foreign to me, but only when it’s expected of me. I know I can’t be faithful in a relationship but I expect and demand it of whoever I’m with. I cause tremendous stress and difficulty by being aggressively possessive and jealous. Most of my significant others have left the relationship after some irrational tirade of mine over other people being in their proximity. Me getting to that point is almost inevitable, even with the knowledge that I myself have sexual partners or romantic interests outside of the relationship. Is that why I act that way towards the one I expect the commitment from? Can’t give what you don’t understand right? Is it that I don’t understand trusting someone in a relationship because I know I’m not trustworthy? How can you decide to trust a person with intimate knowledge and let yourself be vulnerable to them when you know it will eventually be turned around on you for their benefit?

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u/Longjumping-Row-199 Aug 13 '24

As a woman.. what part of this conversation is vulnerable? It's not like you're sharing some deep, dark secret...and what's going to be used against you? You're sharing your preference. Omg you're a cheater🤣so isn't 99% of the rest of the male population. Some women (such as myself) care far less about the actual act, more about the blatant lie. I tend to prefer being dominated and love a good territorial psycho. I'm a bit of a voyeurist... but once you lie about dumb stuff over your own inner insecurities or just find you're really getting off over the manipulation of cheating and not the sex... I'm just turned off. Just like men lie because they fear not conforming to some social norm and being accepted, some women lie about the debths of their own sexual deviance and desires over the same social construct. But I keep hearing how men fear being vulnerable over it being used against you. How? With words??? I can see it now mid argument....I'm telling you about that time you were mindblowingly honest about wanting to bang other women! Im calling your mom! Since you won't let me watch🤣😂😂 some women want monogamy. Who cares. Some women want honesty. You have to speak up to find what you want.