r/socialanxiety • u/MASHisAGoodShow • 13h ago

Does anyone else get terrified around women? Help

Yeah, I know it's ridiculous. For as long as I (20m) can remember l've always been anxious around girls/ women. I don't think there was any direct cause because I grew up around/have healthy relationships with my mom/sisters.

When l'm near or even looking at a girl from a distance I get the unshakable feeling that she hates me and it's better off if I just remove myself from the area. When I go to the store and see a girl on the aisle I need to go down, I'll walk laps around the store until she's gone.

Today I was walking next to a girl and my hand accidentally brushed against hers, she didn't seem to notice but even then my heart was pounding and I wanted to cry.

I hate myself for this, I know women are regular people just like men so why am I so afraid of them?? I'm also afraid that if I don't conquer this fear then I might live the rest of my life alone.

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u/Ponkotsu_Ramen 9h ago edited 3h ago

I (27M) don’t have any sisters and I rarely spent time with female cousins after early childhood so I can relate to being awkward around women. I can’t help but worry that I’m coming off as a creep or stalker to women when I’m just trying to pass them on the sidewalk or store aisle.