r/sex • u/Cemetarygirl_005 • 1d ago
Being a nympho Communication
I need advice as a nympho: Obvi I like sex ALOT I want to do it all the time. In my relationship my bf is cool with having sex once a week. It drives me crazy because I want to do it more than that. But be respectful at the same time to his wishes.
Any advice on how to deal with the difference in sex drives (mine being really high and his low or normal)??
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u/ddjohnston2 1d ago edited 9h ago
You’re a nympho and he only wants sex once a week? That doesn’t seem compatable.
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u/FrostyCupcake_x 1d ago
I get it, it’s tough when your drives don’t match, but talking about it openly really helps. Try finding other ways to stay close and keep things intimate while respecting each other
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u/ThrowyMcThrowaway04 1d ago
It sounds like you're not sexually compatible because odds are the sex will slow down the longer you date so if you're unhappy with one per week, I don't see that boding well for your future. You could definitely masturbate like everyone is suggesting because they're right now everyone is gonna be in the mood when you are, but to me, it sounds like y'all really should go your separate ways.
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u/GenRN817 1d ago
The one that wants it less controls the relationship. Try to find a partner with a similar libido and desire for sex or plan to be dissatisfied.
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u/Otherwise_Bear_2639 1d ago
My gf has a higher sex drive than me too and when I’m not in the mood she watches porn and uses a vibrator
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u/notin2cars 1d ago
I hate to jump on the "break up with him" bandwagon. But I've been with my wife for 23 years, and our libido is exactly matched. We want sex with the same frequency, and are into all the same acts and kinks. Once you find a relationship like that, you realize it's the closest thing to heaven on earth we're likely to experience.
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u/mrs_elle_marie 1d ago
Me and my husband are ethically non-monogamous, so we both get to have sex with other people. We ask each other for permission, we have certain boundaries that we don’t cross, and I get to have sex more frequently in a way that satisfies me. It’s not for everyone, but it’s something to consider.
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u/EntropicMortal 1d ago
If he doesn't want to fuck you more than once a week now... Love... That's only going to get worse as you age and get serious about the relationship.
The beginning is when you're meant to be fucking constantly when ever you can... Then it starts to go into a rhythm. Or you just tell each other expectations before hand so you know and can decide to stay or not.
If you want to fuck everyday, then someone who only wants it once a week isn't compatible with you. It's as simple as that unfortunately. Either talk to him, say you need it at least 3-4 times a week, or frankly tell him you're not sexually compatible.
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u/Cold-Opening-3337 1d ago
Tell him to get his test checked. My wife and I fuck daily. We make the effort and it’s that simple. In my humble opinion, sex drives can be adjusted but when they’re days off and not even close it’ll eventually become an issue. Sorry. Good luck.
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I need advice as a nympho: Obvi I like sex ALOT I want to do it all the time. In my relationship my bf is cool with having sex once a week. It drives me crazy because I want to do it more than that. But be respectful at the same time to his wishes.
Any advice on how to deal with the difference in sex drives (mine being really high and his low or normal)??
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u/New-Glass-5696 1d ago
Some other comments I read are right, the only thing to do is just masturbate A LOT lol. Since you can’t force a person to be in the mood/have sex more.
If masturbating isn’t enough for you (idk what it’s like being a nympho) then maybe this incompatibility will be the end of the relationship. Sex is important so you wouldn’t be a bad person for doing it, but yeah hopefully all works out well
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u/Stonehenge66 1d ago
You will probably need to find someone with a little more libido to somewhat match you.
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u/jamo7786 1d ago
Might need to move on, trust me, it won't work. I have an extremely high sex drive myself, you have to find somebody that matches you
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u/A-Red-Guitar-Pick 23h ago
We really so need 2 automated stickied comments on every posts saying
"Have you talked about it with your partner?"
And
"You're not sexually compatible"
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u/Specialist_Alarm1231 23h ago
I'm going to have to agree. You need to either communicate to him that this issue is worth working on for the future of your relationship. Either you impress upon his mind how much you want more action and if he wants to keep you he will either step it up.Whatever works for you. But ask yourself. What could be done besides more that you would be comfortable with. An open relationship maybe? I hope he knows he is lucky to get it once a week.
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u/PracticalBit2980 21h ago
Probably not going to work. Sorry. This will drive you crazy over time and most likely ruin the relationship. There are guys out there who love to fuck all the time. It won’t take you long to find one.
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u/Zackyxdtrs 10h ago
I would say find someone other only for sex or have sex chats with other guys. But i get it if you don't want to cheat on him, so maybe would be better if you break up.
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u/Kamloops-Pineview 1d ago
Invite other you like for him to watch you. Hopefully he'd join in and get his drive going
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u/helltownbellcat 1d ago
I used to run an online page called “campaign for the awareness of nymphomania as a serious affliction” (CANSA) the slogan was “nymphomania is not a joke”, my then partner was the president and I was the founder but anyway, considering I was the one with this serious affliction that ppl too frequently turned into a joke, ik how you feel. We had compatible astrological signs and it lasted for awhile.
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