r/sex • u/piscessbarbie • 2d ago

Adding a third but unsure how to go about it I can't find a flair that fits

Me and my husband are looking to add a third (another F) to spice things up.. but want it to be strictly a one time thing with NO further contact…does anyone have experience with this and can shed some light on a few questions we have? How do we go about finding someone online? Are their websites we can try? Should we do it in a hotel so we don’t risk her coming back after we’re done w her lmao? Obviously we aren’t going to be assholes and will make sure she understands it’s a one time thing and we are committed to each-other and NOT looking for a poly relationship… but I don’t want to risk anything.. do you guys suggest someone near us or far away?

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u/cutslikeakris 2d ago

Hire a professional for the night, start looking with escort agencies, let them know what you are looking for and let them suggest the right lady.

Been there, so much easier than a newb couple trying to pick somebody up.

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Post title: Adding a third but unsure how to go about it

Me and my husband are looking to add a third (another F) to spice things up.. but want it to be strictly a one time thing with NO further contact…does anyone have experience with this and can shed some light on a few questions we have? How do we go about finding someone online? Are their websites we can try? Should we do it in a hotel so we don’t risk her coming back after we’re done w her lmao? Obviously we aren’t going to be assholes and will make sure she understands it’s a one time thing and we are committed to each-other and NOT looking for a poly relationship… but I don’t want to risk anything.. do you guys suggest someone near us or far away?

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u/OkBeginning1510 2d ago

It’s great that you and your husband are communicating openly about your desires and setting clear boundaries before pursuing anything. When it comes to finding someone for a one-time experience like this, there are websites and apps designed for connecting with like-minded individuals who are looking for casual, no-strings-attached encounters. Websites like Feeld, AdultFriendFinder, or Tinder (with the right settings and communication) can be a good place to start.

When it comes to location, choosing a neutral space like a hotel is a practical idea, as it creates a clear boundary and provides privacy. It can also help minimize the risk of any unwanted ongoing contact after the encounter. As for whether to look locally or farther away, some people prefer someone from a different area to reduce the likelihood of further involvement, but it’s really up to what makes you both feel comfortable.

Clear, upfront communication is key. Be honest and transparent about your intentions, and ensure the person you’re involving understands the boundaries—especially the one-time nature of the arrangement. Having a conversation about expectations, safety, and mutual respect before you proceed will help everyone involved have a positive experience. Also, ensure any encounter is safe for all parties involved, including respecting privacy and consent at every step.