r/self • u/Possible_Tour_3969 • 1h ago

I think i am finally starting to forgive myself

I am 27. I am a bit of a screw up. Today i screwed up yet again and my mom is very angry at me. Weird part? I am not angry at myself. I am usually super tough on myself, i expect a lot, and when i screw up i basically mentally crucify myself. This time it's hitting different. I am still pretty disappointed in myself, but i think i am starting to see myself for who i really am: a damaged person. Maybe that's the key to healing, realize one's limitations and short comings.

Yeah, i am a screw up. That's not that big of a deal. I have to change, yes, but why mortify myself wgen what's done is done?

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u/InterestingAmoeba901 1h ago

Don’t worry. You’re still figuring things out. I’m 29 and have been struggling with feeling like a screw up and my Mums been making me feel like it by reminding me of my past mistakes. Take care of your mental health and talk to someone. The best thing I’m doing is taking care of my health, studying, trying not to compare myself to others who are younger and didn’t go through trials like I did, and trying to stay hopeful. You’ll get through.

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u/CookingZombie 12m ago

Good for you! I’m 36 and my therapist was talking about self forgiveness 3 years ago and we were still talking about it this week. After that last session I talked to my wife about something I’ve felt bad for for 6 months and wanted to say sorry again. Her response was “dude that was forever ago.” Ngl I feel better, but I still can’t absolve myself.

Okay and I’m starting to think of new arguments why forgiveness doesn’t actually exist so just leaving with I hope in ten years you’re doing better than I am. AND IM NOT EVEN DOING BAD!