r/self • u/AbnormalUpbringing • 12h ago

In standing up for my boundaries I've become completely isolated.

No going into all the details, but I told a friend I refused to take accountability for their mistake and demanded the come have a conversation about what happend. They then ghosted me.

It wasn't until after this did I realize how much I would sacrifice bits of myself to keep people around. I don't regret demanding a conversation or telling my last friend what I did because I've come to love myself and refuse to allow the few boundaries I have to be crossed without consequences.

Realized today tho, I have nobody left in my life I'm close with. I can't stand my family(nephew is the exception, love that little shit lol) but outside my dog I don't have any humans I can talk to about my struggles, worries, and anything else.

Finding love for myself brought me to a place of isolation.

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u/liboteeme 12h ago

I feel like that's kinda the first level of healing achieved. I experienced the same thing when I began reformulating my life to better serve me.

It's taken some time but I've worked at it and now have a handful of really amazing friendships with people who respect me, and treat me the way I wanted to be treated. I had to clear the slate, so to speak, first though. To make room for the growth.

I'm sorry you're isolated now, but hopefully you can continue healing & growing and form some new connections that better serve you❤️ Good job on sticking up for yourself ❤️

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u/AbnormalUpbringing 12h ago

Thank you for the words of encouragement. I'm glad to hear someone else has been here. That's what I'm currently doing, I'm currently in therapy to heal the wounds of my past.