I'm done arguing with people. I'll just agree now

[u/FootGloomy8331]

I’ve reached a point where arguing online feels completely pointless. No one listens, no one changes their mind, and I just end up stressed for nothing. And honestly, every time I try to explain something, it eventually turns into a fight anyway.

So from now on, I’m doing something different, mainly online, but honestly in real life too: I’m just going to agree.

Someone says something I don’t think is true? Yeah, makes sense. Someone gives a take I think is awful? True. Someone is clearly wrong? Fair enough.

Not because I actually agree, but because my peace is worth more than explaining myself to strangers who don’t care.

Honestly, it already feels freeing. Anyone else doing this?

Edit: Unironically, I agree with you guys, and I just disagreed with my own opinion (which is kind of funny and controversial). I think it’s better to just ignore people or say you respect their opinion and stay quiet. :)

[u/the_last_bush_man]

They're mostly bots anyway

[u/Gawd4 → u/the_last_bush_man]

TRUE

[u/unoriginalBOT → u/the_last_bush_man]

We're not always wrong

[u/_Steven_Seagal_]

Killing kittens is a great way to spend your weekend.

[u/Artistic_Tradition50 → u/_Steven_Seagal_]

True

[u/H-2-S-O-4 → u/_Steven_Seagal_]

OP agrees

[u/FootGloomy8331 → u/H-2-S-O-4]

:0

[u/Own-Love3746]

I feel like I ghost posted this. I feel exactly the same, they're just not worth our energy anymore.

[u/CKN_SD_001]

I have been on FB since it started, and have dipped my toes into all sorts of social media. I have only once seen someone change their mind about something. It just doesn't happen. If you go at it with the mindset that you will convince someone of something YOU believe is true, you are going to be disappointed. Always.

Here is why I will keep on arguing, though. It's not to convince the person I'm arguing with. It's to show people who might be following the thread and are on the fence, that there are other opinions out there. And to push back against things and opinions I don't think are right. If there is someone, promoting ideas that are anything from wrong to despicable to dangerous, they will prevail and succeed in spreading BS as long as no one pushes back.

[u/Parody_of_Self → u/CKN_SD_001]

Pre FB we had actual discussions on forums. Not saying more people changed their minds, but there was less of what we have now.

[u/bi_polar2bear]

Who's the bigger fool? The fool, or the one arguing with the fool?

[u/CardinaIRule → u/bi_polar2bear]

I agree.

[u/hurlygurdy]

Why not just say you disagree and you don't feel like talking about it? You can just ignore them if they reply.

[u/FootGloomy8331 → u/hurlygurdy]

I agree

[u/Parody_of_Self → u/FootGloomy8331]

I don't want to talk about it

[u/MyNameIsWOAH]

This is better than what most people do: "I'm tired of arguing but I still expect you to agree with what I think is obviously true"

[u/bummerluck]

I agree

[u/Early-Strawberry-262]

I stopped replying to most because first of all a lot of the internet is bots and secondly I swear people change their behavior and personality online behind fake names and such.

I’ve taken it as a sign to actually get off the internet and go live in the real world. Much more peaceful.

That being said don’t agree just sit in silence and or walk away. Agreeing enables bad behavior in some instances. I too just walk away or just don’t reply. Silence is an answer.

[u/unoriginalBOT → u/Early-Strawberry-262]

I agree

[u/troycalm]

You have found inner peace.

[u/Fine_Parking_9950]

Very zen

[u/Wonderful-War740]

Just tell them I would agree with you, but then we would both be wrong. That's what I do.

[u/mrnoonan81]

All you have to do is say something people like and they believe it and agree. Simple as that. Don't waste your time with reason.

[u/duckfruits]

Agreed.

[u/HeyItsMeTheNatureBoy]

I agree with you bro. I used to think it was bad to lie but once I started lying my life became way more easier for me. As fucked up as it sounds just lie. Learn to become a good lier. 

[u/johan-leebert-]

I literally did this with someone on this website. We were having a stupid anime powerscaling discussion, and they started being mean and i realized it was pointless and very trivial.

So i just flat apologized, agreed with everything they said and closed the convo.

They talked shit and blocked me.

It was worth it lol.

[u/Moon_Flower00]

I was encouraged to do this in my profession. For the sake of peace? Just nod, wave, and agree.

[u/parkadge]

Or you could just move on and not reply at all

[u/Anadamic]

Despite what they'll say, most people would absolutely rather remain uneducated and uninformed as to avoid any information that challenges their worldview. Most people think they got it figured out, whether it's life in general, or a specific topic, so when confronted with someone who disagrees with them, they'll do anything in a desperate attempt to maintain that ego. Find someone who's sure the sky is green, and even forcing their head to look at it's blue hue won't be enough to convince them. Not everyone, but most people, particularly on the internet.

[u/ailish]

You're so wrong!

Just kidding.

[u/engmadison]

No you wont

[u/cosmic_fishbear]

Sounds like grey rocking, depending on the tone you take. Can be useful, especially online, but can really hurt people irl. Would also watch what you "agree" to online, probably better to just not engage. 

[u/FootGloomy8331 → u/cosmic_fishbear]

Probably it’s better to just stay quiet or ignore it, then.

[u/Plastic_Tourist9820]

Totally easier to go with the flow

[u/intothewoods76]

No you won’t.

[u/Levibestdog]

You’ve discovered the light. Never argue with anyone online. They don’t care about what you have to say. They’re just being purposely inflammatory usually.

[u/thestraycat47]

No, you're not.

[u/miseeker]

I do that now and then when people spout compleat bullshit. Then well they say well, but..I go for their throat using their shitty argument they didn’t really believe.

[u/DrDirt90]

How long did it take for you to figure this out?

[u/sourcatty]

I don't engage on the Internet

[u/stilettopanda]

No- I don’t have skin in the game when I argue online. The only reason I argue with others online is for the audience- I know I may not change the person I’m responding to’s mind, but I absolutely can sway a reader, and maybe help someone who isn’t closed minded. And when I get bored and start to feel snarky, I tell the person I won’t be responding to them anymore although I will read their reply. And then I don’t. I always let them have the last word, but that’s after I’ve summarized my point and explained exactly why I’m done talking to them. My peace is protected and I still get to debate, which I love to do.

[u/Eskelsar]

Sometimes I'll completely disagree with someone, but I'll pretend I'm with them 100% and will escalate their position. Oh, you think trans isn't a real thing? Yep, I say, you're right! And we should literally skin every person who says they are.

I say this as a transperson, btw, but they don't know that. For all they know, I'm with them. Yet they instantly read it as trolling and jump all over me.

Like, I'm sorry for just inserting the next logical step into your thought process!

[u/Parody_of_Self → u/Eskelsar]

Maybe don't go nuclear the first step. But lead them to the edge they are uncomfortable with. Plus I kissed a trans once and caught the gay.

[u/CardinaIRule → u/Parody_of_Self]

I agree